7 Quick Takes: Court Edition

7 Quick Takes

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Travel. All of my flights went well other than my flight from Bellingham to Seattle being late on Monday and my flight to Bellingham on Tuesday involving horrible turbulence because of a weather system over the Whatcom County line. (I’m not a nervous flyer at all and even I was white-knuckling this one.) My hotel room was lovely and my rental car was great. I got to patronize the Qdoba in the Central Terminal off the C concourse both days even though I had a tight connection on Monday. (I was sitting next to the flight attendants for my San Jose flight who were deadheading from Bellingham. They told me I had time to grab food even though it was a tight connection and they’d make sure I got on my plane. They were right.)

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Court. The only way I can put it was that it was brutal. The judge who was supposed to hear the case was elevated to the appellate court and we got a judge who had been on the bench for three days. It was really painful to have to sit there and listen to everything that was said about me. Nothing was conclusively decided and the case was continued to March. I had been made to fly down for this hearing, so I’m more than a little irritated at this.

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Lenten devotional. I went straight from court to the airport on Tuesday and tried to channel my pain into editing reflections for my parish’s Lenten devotional booklet. I got quite a bit done and reading the reflections was a blessing to me.

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My swearing. You know you might swear a little too much when you text your priest about how court went and she tells you to call her while also mentioning that she is looking forward to learning some new swear words. (She has a fouler mouth than I do so I didn’t teach her anything new.)

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Daniel. I prepped like mad for this trip with regard to Daniel’s routine and care. My mom got an updated control journal for him and I did things like prep his lunches ahead of time and lay out his clothes so she could get him through the evening, morning, and afternoon I was gone without having to think too much. (I should add that my mom raised twins and backs me up 100% with Daniel’s care, so he was in the most capable hands with her. He also adores her which helps.) I was worried about him not sleeping but she got him to sleep just fine and handled his wake-up at 3 a.m. without a problem. She and my dad took him for “adventures” to Costco, Fred Meyer, and Haggen after school on Tuesday as well, which was fun for him. He was a happy kid while I was gone, but he was definitely relieved to see me.

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State of the Uniom. (Yes, the misspelling is intentional. It was a typo on the tickets.) I haven’t watched it yet or read the transcripts. My life is depressing enough without reading about 45’s nonsense.

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How I’m doing now. I’m worn out, not sleeping well, still feeling the sting of what Jon’s attorney said about me, and battling depression. Having to attend this hearing rebroke my heart, and the wound from having to file for divorce had the scab ripped off of it. I really want to crawl under the covers and curl up in a fetal position, but I don’t have that option. Instead, I’m dragging myself out of bed for class and doing what I need to do in order to parent Daniel because he needs a functional mama.

I don’t talk a lot about my divorce on here because it isn’t fair to Jon to have our dirty laundry aired, but know that it was not a decision I made lightly. Making it felt like I was being ripped in half.

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The Simple Woman’s Daybook: January 28, 2018

For Today… January 28, 2018

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Looking out my window… cold and windy but not bad overall. We’re supposed to get some rain tonight.

I am thinking… about my trip to San Jose for court. I have everything set up for Daniel care and I have to trust that he’ll be OK with my mom and sleep OK tomorrow night. It’s unnerving to say the least!

I am thankful… for everything falling into place for this trip.

One of my favorite things… a good Reddit thread.

I am wearing… jammies. Church clothes were a berry-colored long-sleeved shirt with black slacks and black flats. I switched the slacks out for black jeans when I got home.

I am creating… this blog post. 🙂 Also random stuff on my hooks.

I am listening to… Shawn Colvin singing “I Don’t Want to Live on the Moon”.

I am hoping… court is decided in my favor on Tuesday.

I am learning… FICA tax calculations.

In my kitchen… I’ve been eating a lot of tuna subs from Subway.

In the school room… Daniel is becoming a little parrot so I’m having to start watching my language around him.

Post Script… sharing this infographic on how your cat is plotting to kill you. You’re welcome.

Shared Quote… “How, then, to imagine, the expansive heart of this God—greater than God—who takes seven buses, just to arrive at us. We settle sometimes for less than intimacy with God when all God longs for is this solidarity with us. In Spanish, when you speak of your great friend, you describe the union and kinship as being de uña y mugre—our friendship is like the fingernail and the dirt under it. Our image of who God is and what’s on God’s mind is more tiny than it is troubled. It trips more on our puny sense of God than over conflicting creedal statements or theological considerations. The desire of God’s heart is immeasurably larger than our imaginations can conjure. This longing of God’s to give us peace and assurance and a sense of well-being only awaits our willingness to cooperate with God’s limitless magnanimity.”
–Greg Boyle, S.J.

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5 Quick Takes: Reasons My Quick Takes Are Late Edition

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I’m usually one of the first to post their Quick Takes when they go live on Friday at midnight (9 p.m. PST where I am) and it’s now Saturday without a post from me! Why, do you ask, are my Quick Takes late this week? Well…

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My bed broke. At Christmas, the SKORVA beam that goes down the middle of my IKEA bed broke. My brother had experienced something similar with his IKEA bed, so he helped me prop it with books. The new part arrived after New Year’s and I installed it… but there was another problem. The LUROY slats on which the mattress sits are in two pieces, not one and certain slats kept slipping and making part of the mattress sag. My bed will be slept in by someone else while I’m in San Jose so I had to get this fixed. I just duct-taped the two halves together in such a way that Red Green would approve.

Admittedly, I still think that the designers of the SKORVA and LUROY should be trampled by a herd of syphilitic reindeer.

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Court. As some of you know, there’s a request for order hearing this coming Tuesday in my divorce case. I was supposed to be able to testify by phone but was informed by my attorney two weeks ago that they were demanding me to be there in person because they couldn’t handle both Jon and me phoning our testimony into the hearing.

[insert me banging my head against the wall]

So… I cleared it with my parents to have them take care of Daniel and made arrangements to fly to San Jose on Monday afternoon, stay overnight, have court in the morning, and fly back to Washington on Tuesday afternoon. I’ll be gone for a little over 24 hours and am having to put everything together for my mom so that all the Daniel care stuff is automatic. While I have things more or less in place already, I’m having to edit the Daniel care journal to update it about medication and stuff like that.

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School. I have work for two classes due on Monday and one of those classes is an enormous time suck. I’ve got everything for the first one done and am about to dive into the calculations for the class that is the time suck.

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Daniel had no school on Friday. It was an in-service day or something so he was home yesterday, and that makes things a bit more complicated. Thankfully, he’s a good kid and we were able to go do some of the stocking-up for my trip without a problem.

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Health. While I’m recovering more from the respiratory crap last week, I’m still not 100% and still not sleeping well because my breathing sucks. There are a large number of naps being taken and sleeping in happening as a result.

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The Simple Woman’s Daybook: January 9, 2018

For Today… January 9, 2018

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Looking out my window… dark. We had rain on and off and lots of clouds with temps in the 40’s F. I have a headache from the weather change, but the rain is worth it.

I am thinking… about classes. It’s nothing profound as today was my first “long” day and I’m pretty sure I was asleep by 9:30. (I got woken up by something.)

I am thankful… that I was able to help people in my OFTEC 135 class today and that I was able to talk geek with a parishioner on my “coffee” break today. (Why yes, it involved working on homework at Starbucks in between classes. How did you know?!?!?!?)

One of my favorite things… the blissful feeling you get before you fall asleep.

I am wearing… jammies. Clothes were a black shirt and jeans today with a hoodie.

I am creating… Excel formulas. I’m in heaven.

I am reading… Searching for Sunday by Rachel Held Evans. It’s a re-read and I’m loving it.

I am hoping… to do well on my test in 10-Key class tomorrow. (It’s just basic math on the calculator.) We also have a practice touch addition test tomorrow so I will probably be doing touch addition drills before class to warm up my feelings.

I am learning… how to effectively help my classmates in OFTEC 135. We were doing advanced formulas today and I was having to explain some of them to a classmate who got lost.

In my kitchen… leftover lasagna. (I made a batch of “lazy” lasagna this weekend and froze some of it for days when cooking required too much coherent thought… like today!)

In the school room… Daniel is ecstatic to be back at school.

Post Script… something I should try again.

Shared Quote… “It’s strange that Christians so rarely talk about failure when we claim to follow a guy whose three-year ministry was cut short by his crucifixion.” — Rachel Held Evans

A moment from my day… Our choir anthem from Sunday.

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The Simple Woman’ Daybook: January 1, 2018

For Today… January 1, 2018

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Looking out my window… sunny and cold with temps in the 30’s.

I am thinking… about the parish Lenten Devotional which I offered to coordinate.

I am thankful… for my church being such a welcoming place to Daniel. Advent IV was hard but they were fine with him there. When I was there yesterday, many people were asking about him. 🙂

One of my favorite things… pretty much everything involved in putting the devotional together. 🙂

I am wearing… my Old Navy flag shirt and black jeans.

I am creating… a survey for people in my parish to find out their wishes for the devotional.

I am listening to… my Youtube Christmas playlist. (It’s still the season of Christmas, y’all!)

I am hoping… my bloodwork doesn’t come out too horribly.

I am learning… how to make surveys in SurveyMonkey and Google Forms.

In my kitchen… plotting it currently. If Dad isn’t making anything special, I’ll probably put together a salad at Haggen or something.

In the school room… Daniel goes back tomorrow! He’s been asking about it *EVERY* day of Christmas vacation so he’ll be happy.

Shared Quote… “Creating fantasy is real work, important work. It’s a hard, cold world we live in, and sometimes we need to escape. Sometimes we need that more than food or water or a roof over our heads.” — G.A. McKevett

Closing Notes:

Word for the Year: “overcome”
Saint for the Year: St. Gemma Galgani

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7 Quick Takes: Resolutions for 2018

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Kelly is back from her Advent blog break so the Quick Takes resume! Here are my resolutions for 2018.

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Make healthier choices. I stunk at this one in 2017 despite having TWO PE classes for school. I’ve had two consults with a nutritionist this fall and have the tools, so it’s just a matter of using them.

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Sort out my medical stuff. Right now, I’m looking at two possible surgeries over Spring Break and once I’m done with school for the year. My BTL got postponed because my OB/GYN was on vacation for the month of December and honestly, I’d rather see someone else in her office because I really didn’t click with her. (Yes, I’m “getting my tubes tied”. We’ve seen that pregnancy is deadly for me and my OB/GYN doesn’t want to do a hysterectomy because I’m young. It’s quite hard to be “open to life” when doing so could kill you.)

When I saw the ENT and he did the nasal telescope, we discovered that my septoplasty in 2008 was just the lower parts and not the upper parts… which is problematic because the upper parts need to be done. Sooo… I’ll probably be doing that over Spring Break because I know from experience that it will mean a week without sleep because of the stuffiness.

Then there’s my back…

— 3 —

Not eat any blue paint. This is in honor of my friend Rick who passed away almost 5 years ago. He’d make a resolution like this every year so I do now as well in my attempt to live like Rick.

— 4 —

Finish crocheting projects. I finally got my mom’s socks done. I have other projects on my hooks.

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Take Daniel to church with me at least monthly. I took him on Sunday morning for Advent IV and he chattered through the service and needed to walk the aisles and to the fellowship hall a few times. He did NOT want his tablet and finally settled when I handed him a bag of Cheerios. This all triggered a panic attack… but I survived and didn’t get any nasty looks. My church rallied around and supported me. While one of the Mary’s Guild was holding me and letting me cry, another person took Daniel for a walk. People thanked me for bringing him, which is a MASSIVE change from Jon’s church in Galt where people claimed to want him in church but gave me nasty looks if he made a sound, or relegated me to the nursery where I could listen (in theory — it didn’t work in practice) but was cut off from everyone.

In short, I have a tribe and I need to start taking Daniel to be with them.

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Pray more. My prayer life sucks right now. Must fix it.

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Make 45’s life more difficult. Why yes, I do have plans to be a social justice warrior in the new year. How did you guess? 😀 Got my pussy hat, my special shirts, and my marching shoes!

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The Simple Woman’s Daybook: December 17, 2017

For Today… December 17, 2017

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Looking out my window… dark. It was a beautiful rainy day.

I am thinking… about politics. I still need to write about Doug Jones’s victory on Tuesday but I’ve had things to do this weekend.

I am thankful… that my homeboys are having a better season than last year. The Browns still suck but they are known for that. (Their record this year is currently 0-14.)

One of my favorite things… gloating about my Niners winning to Seahawks fans (whose team was outscored 6-1).

I am wearing… jammies. Church clothes were a long-sleeved black shirt, black paisley skirt, black tights, and black flats. I switched out the skirt and tights for jeans.

I am creating… socks.

I am listening to… various things.

I am hoping… to start the decreases on sock #1 for Mom tomorrow.

I am learning… to just trust the crochet pattern.

In my kitchen… deciding on the menu for Christmas.

In the school room… Daniel has school for two days and then is off until the 2nd.

Post Script… this sounds like something from The Bloggess but without the taxidermy. (This is the Bloggess piece being compared.)

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