7 Quick Takes: End of School, Additions to the Family, and The GOP Are Not Pro-Life Edition

7 Quick Takes

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What the actual [expletive]?!?!?!?!? Please tell me how separating kids from their mothers and keeping kids in kennel enclosures is appropriate, especially by politicians who happen to be pro-life. I freaking dare you!

Don’t believe me? Here are two articles from the Seattle Times on the subject:

Rep. Jayapal meets 174 asylum-seeking women, many separated from children, at SeaTac prison

US senator refused entry to facility holding migrantsโ€™ kids

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Prayer request. This is around a mile from where I grew up and a pool where I competed with my swim team a few times. Please pray for all affected.

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Done! I turned my last final in this afternoon and I am DONE!!! I have three 1-credit classes left in my program and they are spread out over this summer and fall. While it is definitely bittersweet to be saying good-bye to some of my classmates and two of my instructors (one is retiring and one is on sabbatical during Fall Quarter), I’ve gained a bunch of Facebook friends and I’ve proven through my Capstone Case Studies for Integrated Projects that I do know my stuff backwards and forwards.

Right now, I’m just waiting for final grades in two classes.

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New books. Rachel Held Evans‘ book Inspired just came out and I picked up a copy of my friend Imani’s book True Identity yesterday. Along with Jen Fulwiler’s new book and the new one from Fr. Greg Boyle, S.J., I should have a lovely summer of reading.

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Ahem. Who has two thumbs and gets to go hear Presiding Bishop Michael Curry speak tomorrow?

This girl!

**UPDATE** It was AMAZING!!!!

Me and PB Michael Curry.

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Auntie Jen. My amazing sister-in-law is within a week of her due date. Please pray for a safe delivery for her and for my coming nephew.

Thanks!

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Wedding bells. My youngest cousin is getting married on Sunday. Please pray for Sarah and Evan as they begin their life together. Pray also for me because it’s at an herb farm on the grass… and I am **VERY** allergic to grass.

*stockpiles Benadryl cooling gel*

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7 Quick Takes: CLEVELAND LOST!!!!! Edition

7 Quick Takes

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Refer to title please. ๐Ÿ™‚ My hometown boys (the Warriors) SWEPT the Cavs in the NBA Finals. That’s three NBA Championships in four years. 2016 (Cleveland’s ONLY championship win) was indeed a one-off (and a very last minute victory given that they have ONE good player).

And yes, I do enjoy hating on Cleveland sports. ๐Ÿ™‚

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This describes me so well. I saw this on the Book of Faces this week and seem to have found a new favorite word.

Hiraeth.

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Wow. This past Wednesday (the 6th) marked my last in-person class for my program. Everything else is either online or part of my internship this fall. It’s bittersweet because while I’m happy that the quarter is winding down, I’m going to miss my classmates. We’ve been together for 1-2 years (depending on where people are in their programs)

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Leaving an evangelical cult. I’m conjecturing that Dawn (the speaker) is a cousin of Elizabeth Esther. It was interesting to watch.

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Daniel update. His gazzazzapop is giving him a weight gain of at least 1 lb per week, which is good as it is taking the threat of an NG tube off the table. He’s fighting against having to drink it, but he doesn’t get a choice at the moment because they are the only calories he is currently getting. (The little beast stopped eating solid food.)

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Music take #1. Here is something calming that I like while working on homework.

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Music take #2. This is a favorite from her latest album.

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7 Quick Takes: Late Night Edition

7 Quick Takes

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Integrated projects. I turned my first Capstone Case Study in on Sunday. I was talking to my instructor on Wednesday while she was grading them and she told me I had done very well.

My response: “By your standards or mine?”

She laughed. (I had gotten 109.5 out of 110, which is excellent by her standards while I was bugged by the 0.5 point I had lost.) She created an optional discussion post where we could post part of our case study (in this case, a flier for a yurt tour) and it has been fascinating to see what people put together for it.

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Mea culpa, Lord. Sleep deprivation and stress have led to me feeling like I was going to have a panic attack multiple times this week. On Wednesday, I came home after my tutoring shift and did noon prayer (about 2 1/2 hours late) which was helpful. I also felt like the Spirit was reminding me that I need to pray about things a lot more often. (Admittedly, my prayer life sucks right now.)

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God speaking to me through music. One of the way God breaks through the armadillo shell I seem to have around my soul these days is music. Unapologetically Episcopalian shared this piece on their Facebook page on Wednesday afternoon and it was needed.

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Update on the kid. Because I am a slacker mom, I forgot to schedule my beastling for a weight check today (it *IS* technically Friday). If I can’t get him in briefly at our pediatrician up here, I’ll just stick him on a scale at home and see if he’s gaining appropriately.

He’s drinking his gazazzapop (“gazazzapop” being a word my grandpa used for a liquid without a name) willingly and I can’t wait until summer when we can space it out over the course of a day, rather than having to fit three boxes in between when he gets home from school and when he goes to sleep.

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Linguistics geeking. This sounds interesting.

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Yet another distraction. Finding out about this is not a good thing for my productivity…

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Good night. My snuggle buddy has declared that he would like my chest, so I am signing off. Sleep well, y’all!

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7 Quick Takes: Disordered Eating Edition

7 Quick Takes

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Music take #1. This song came on randomly while I was doing my Word II homework in one of the computer labs on Tuesday.

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Music take #2. Loreena McKennitt’s newest album came out this month and it is excellent. I’ve listened to it while working on homework and we listened to it on the way down to Seattle Children’s yesterday.

A song for this weekend:

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Background on yesterday. Since getting hooked up with the Autism Center at Seattle Children’s Hospital last year, we’ve been able to get referrals to specialists at Seattle Children’s outpatient clinics and one of those is gastroenterology. Long story short, the gastroenterologist we saw was concerned about Daniel’s weight and when he lost a pound between appointments (possibly due to solving a constipation problem), she had kittens. We already had an appointment with the gastroenterology department’s nutrition staff for last Friday, so she ordered bloodwork to go with it.

We went down there last Friday (the 18th), got blood taken (OMG… THEIR PHLEBOTOMY TEAM IS AWESOME!!!!), and met with a wonderful nutritionist… who gave us a week to get kiddo up to 2000 calories per day (at least) or we would be talking about a feeding tube. They gave us samples of a couple different calorie-dense formulas and Daniel chose to bulk up with four boxes a day of this one after we tried him on all of them. (He wouldn’t touch Pediasure at all, even the chocolate flavor.) We’ve also been giving him extra peanut butter and adding heavy whipping cream to his milk.

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So about yesterday… We had an 8:30 appointment with Seattle Children’s yesterday morning (which meant leaving at 6:30 a.m. because traffic from where we live north of Seattle to the hospital in the U District is hideous) and they were good with his weight gain. We see them again in two weeks and I’ll be scheduling a weight check with his doctor this coming week to check in with her about all of this.

I also get to chase a referral for feeding therapy. Woohoo.

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For those who will inevitably ask if all of this could have been prevented… The answer is “we don’t know”. One thing we probably should have done is the high-risk infant screening through Benefis when he was six months old. The problem: Jon was about to lose his parish in Montana and we were traveling all over the place trying to find another call for him. We were also 2 hours from Great Falls and would have had a heck of a time doing feeding therapy there, depending on how often we had to be down there because of our work schedules and having to share a car.

We did have him followed at UC Davis and through Easter Seals and our local Regional Center in northern California, but he got pickier in his eating as he got older.

Another problem: we’ve moved 5 times since he was born and have had to start over with the acquiring of specialists each time. We’re staying put long-term so we should hopefully be able to nip this in the bud right now.

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For those wondering what is causing this… Preemies, particularly those who have had to be on ventilators, are notorious for having texture issues. Add in sensory issues from autism and you have a fun situation.

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My current ear worm. Enjoy y’all!

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The Simple Woman’s Daybook: May 13, 2018

For Today… May 13, 2018

Simple Woman's Daybook

Looking out my window… dark. It was positively gorgeous with temperatures in the 70’s F.

I am thinking… about various classes.

I am thankful… for worship at church today. My heart overflowed with joy and it was amazing.

One of my favorite things… Tillamook ice cream. It’s on par with Graeter’s.

I am wearing… jammies. Church clothes were my little black dress with a green denim jacket over it and black flats. Other clothes were jeans, a charcoal-colored t-shirt, and flip-flops any time I left the house.

I am creating… inventory records in QuickBooks.

I am watching… various episodes of World’s Strictest Parents.

I am hoping… tomorrow isn’t too grueling.

In my kitchen… salmon, potatoes, asparagus, and salad for Mother’s Day family dinner.

In the school room… he’s kicking butt and his language is exploding.

Post Script… God forbid someone should *gasp* barbecue at a lake while being African-American! Thankfully, this ended well, but there are so many cases where it doesn’t.

Shared Quote… “You stand with the least likely to succeed until success is succeeded by something more valuable: kinship. You stand with the belligerent, the surly, and the badly behaved until bad behavior is recognized for the language it is: the vocabulary of the deeply wounded and of those whose burdens are more than they can bear.” — Greg Boyle, S.J.

A moment from my day… My first Mother’s Day nap in the NICU

Naptime in the NICU

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7 Quick Takes: How to Support A Loved One Going Through A Divorce

7 Quick Takes

It’s been over two years since I posted this. I got word yesterday afternoon that the settlement officer had signed and approved my papers, terminating my marriage. As I’m processing all of this, I thought I’d share some wisdom on how to help and support people in my position.

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Recognize that you don’t know the whole story. Unless you spend every minute with your loved one and their partner, you don’t know what happened in their relationship, what problems existed, and what they’ve hidden from the world. Yes, it might be surprising to you that they’re divorcing, but keep that to yourself.

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Realize that they do not owe you an explanation nor do they owe you a reporting of every single thing that happens in the legal proceedings. As much as you might want one, your loved one does not owe an explanation to anyone but their partner and God. Prying will get you put on an info diet.

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Don’t judge them. This goes back to #1. You don’t know what happened, so you don’t get to tell them that they’re a horrible person for filing for divorce or that they are irreparably damaging their children. For all you know, their partner could have been verbally/emotionally abusive or could have been cheating on them for years.

The winner for the dumbest thing I heard: that I was committing adultery by divorcing Jon.

via GIPHY

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Don’t try to get them back together with their partner. Yes, this did happen to me and that person got cut out of my life.

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Understand that they will be going through a grieving process and that grief is not linear. There are days when I’ve accepted it, days when I’m angry that I was in a position where I had to make the decision, and days when I’m depressed. This is normal.

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Do not attempt to incite anger in them against their partner or tell them they should do things to ruin their partner’s life. I had people trying to tell me that I should be angrier at Jon than I was and people who suggested that I contact Jon’s current parish and trash him. I told those people to cease and desist or they would be cut out of my life. (This is also why I keep my last name off of this blog — I had people offer to do it on my behalf and not knowing Jon’s last name meant that they couldn’t do it without me giving them a lot of information. And no, these people were not members of my family. My family members aren’t that hot-headed.)

The reason this is so bad: your loved one is already dealing with a lot of emotions surrounding their divorce and is struggling with what they’re feeling. Telling them that what they’re feeling is wrong is NOT helpful. Telling them to do things to hurt their estranged partner is wrong because it puts them in a near occasion of sin, it makes the situation more contentious than it needs to be, and going through with it can have severe legal repercussions for your loved one. It’s already a horribly painful situation — don’t make it worse.

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Encourage your loved one to do things that are healthy for them. I had friend encourage me to pursue therapy, friends who encouraged me to pursue Confession last year and this year, and friends who got me out of the house for a game night or just for coffee to help me take my mind off of the situation.

— Bonus —

If appropriate, pray for them. I have gotten through the last few years on the prayers of people in my life.

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The Simple Woman’s Daybook: May 6, 2018

For Today… May 6, 2018

Simple Woman's Daybook

Looking out my window… sunny and in the 70’s. It’s so nice out that Daniel and I got some playground time in today.

I am thinking… about my group presentation for Business English this week.

I am thankful… for my grandmother telling me lucidly and clearly that she loved me when I went to visit her with Daniel yesterday.

One of my favorite things… my Integrated Projects class. I feel like I’m getting to play when I do homework for it.

I am wearing… a black shirt and jeans. My feet are bare as usual. ๐Ÿ™‚

I am creating… documents using Word, Excel, and Access.

I am listening to… random things on iTunes.

I am hoping… that I can get everything done that is due in the next two days.

In my kitchen… I grabbed some teriyaki while I was out today.

Shared Quote… “Be a sinner and sin boldly, but believe and rejoice in Christ even more boldly.” — Martin Luther

A moment from my day… This was on when I turned on the radio today:

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