7 Quick Takes: Triennial IEP Edition

7 Quick Takes

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“Standing in the rain.” I spent yesterday morning standing in the rain to support middle school kids in their walkout. Details are here.

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Attending a birth. Someone sent this letter to Dear Prudence and asked her to arbitrate in a situation between a mother-in-law and her daughter-in-law, in which the mother-in-law is butthurt that her daughter-in-law doesn’t want her in the room while she’s giving birth. However, her own mother is permitted in there and the mother-in-law is crying that this is *SOOOOOOOOOO* unfair that she’s being made a “second-class grandma”, even going so far as to call her daughter-in-law’s parents to make them badger their daughter into changing her mind. The son and daughter-in-law (as well as the daughter-in-law’s parents) are furious with her and she can’t figure out what she did wrong.

Prudence excoriated her (quite rightfully) for being an entitled shrew because childbirth is not a spectator sport. Someone decided to do a running Twitter commentary on the issue and then George Takei picked it up. Let’s just say that Uncle George’s fan base was not siding in favor of the mother-in-law and excoriating the misguided people who attempted (badly) to argue in her favor.

So, for the sake of any readers of this blog who might argue in favor of the mother-in-law, let me put this in words you might be able to understand: Childbirth is a private medical procedure. It is a part of life, but not one which many people want to share with their mother-in-laws, women who didn’t freaking *RAISE* them and take care of them when they were sick. If you decide to make this a hill to die on, prepare to lose a relationship with your daughter-in-law, your future grandchild (your daughter-in-law is not stupid enough to let your son take her child to see you), and likely your son because you will have demonstrated that you have no intention of respecting the parents’ boundaries for their family, especially their children.

Capeche?

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Tickling my funny bone. I know this is clickbait, but it’s funny clickbait.

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Triennial IEP meeting. To be compliant with IDEA, the school must do testing every three years to make sure that special education is still appropriate. This year, I discovered that someone had put the wrong date in the computer as to when Daniel was due for his triennial evaluation and this meant that we had to pull everything together in a very short period of time. Thankfully, Daniel has an amazing IEP team and we made it. The meeting was Wednesday and while it was painful in some ways, there was positive progress and we have good IEP goals for next year. His gross motor skills have also improved enough that he is being discharged from physical therapy, which is definitely a positive step.

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If you’re interested… March for Our Lives is a march dedicated to talking about gun violence and sensible gun control. (**NOTE** Sensible gun control does not mean that we are taking away everyone’s weapons, but rather discussing appropriate legal regulations that would allow people to own their weapons, but do a better job of keeping them from falling into the wrong hands. I want to make this abundantly clear.)

If you’d like to attend a local one or find out more information click here. There are marches being held on March 24th on 6 continents, which I find pretty amazing. If this is not of interest, feel free to ignore it. 🙂

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Lenten meal ideas. Need some vegetarian/vegan meal ideas for the next two weeks? Click here.

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Duuuuude… The results of the astronaut twin study with Scott and Mark Kelly are out and apparently, long-term space missions can alter our DNA.

For more Quick Takes, visit Kelly at This Ain’t The Lyceum.

“Standing In the Rain”: The Walkout to Protest Gun Violence in Schools

I walked into Mary’s Guild yesterday and was asked if I wanted to go “stand in the rain” with some of the women.

My answer: “OF COURSE!”

Walkout

We wanted to go stand in support at the high school, but the kids were going to be in the gym, so we’d have to be on campus… which would not be allowed. (As a parent, I’m OK with this — the school has to limit access to only those who have an educational purpose for being there.) The moms of various high schoolers in Mary’s Guild also wanted to step back and let their kids do this on their own, so we decided to go support the local middle school.

From the back... (I'm the green umbrella.)

There were easily 100+ kids standing around the flagpole that we could see from the sidewalk off-campus. They were completely silent for those 17 minutes and you could tell, even from a distance, that this was something they were taking very seriously.

I heard about other walkouts during the day including the scene at the high school.

The high school.

Kids in the Mount Vernon School District who participated were given unexcused absences if they walked out. Parents overwhelmingly said “we don’t care — do it”.

Kids at the other middle school stood along the street with signs. The picture of this particular one shredded my heart.

Am I next?

Of course, there were also the naysayers, because no positive activity is safe from criticism. (My comments are in italics.)

  1. “They’re just doing this to get out of class!” That would be a nope! It was cold and rainy and I can’t think of anyone who would be out there unless they had a good reason. Next!
  2. “It’s just political theater!” Nope! That would be Hamilton which the juniors were off seeing in Seattle at the time. There was nothing theatrical about this. Next!
  3. “The grown-ups are puppeting these kids! That would be wrong. The Women’s March might have given them the tools, but the kids were completely in charge. Next!
  4. “Let’s see how many participate if it’s held after school! That would be the March for Our Lives on March 24th. Daniel and I will be participating and I am SOOOOOOO excited! Oh, by the way, a group of high schoolers are putting that together. I offered to help in any way they needed and they told me to publicize it… which I am doing right now. 🙂 Next!
  5. “They don’t know anything about what they are protesting!” Apparently, you haven’t heard the conversations I’ve heard from the Running Start kids on the subject or the speakers I’ve heard. Next!
  6. “Why couldn’t they do something positive instead?!? So kids choosing to stand up for their safety at school and remember a tragedy that killed 17 students their age isn’t positive? Civics in action, much?

I’m reminded of these words from the Bob Dylan song, “The Times They Are A Changin'”:

Come mothers and fathers
Throughout the land
And don’t criticize
What you can’t understand
Your sons and your daughters
Are beyond your command
Your old road is rapidly aging
Please get outta’ the new one if you can’t lend your hand
For the times they are a-changin’

Our kids are speaking. We need to listen.