Why I Am Not Homeschooling Daniel (I): The Post That Triggered This

I will readily admit that I am a snarky evil wench and Elena pushes buttons in me that are pretty hard to push. This post (which I’m refuting below) is what triggered the whole “why I’m not homeschooling Daniel” post seed. If you choose to click over and discuss this with her, pleasepleasepleasepleaseplease be civil and do not pick a fight. As she said in her Simple Woman Daybook post this week, she “[has] a tendency to hold a grudge and to ruminate over things” so please don’t piss her off.

Onto my refutation!

I have two kids in homeschool high school, and one kid about to leave eighth grade. I also have two sons who have graduated high school, one from my homeschool and one from a local digital school after being homeschooled for eight years.

When I attend homeschool high school events, I discover that many, many of the student participants ARE NOT HOMESCHOOLED ANY MORE!! They were at one time and they have made many homeschooled friends, but they are now either attending a public or private school or doing their school work through a government funded digital school online, which means they have to follow the rules of the state of Ohio for their education and degree.

My children are keenly aware of this.

Sometimes their parents put them back in school because the parents were afraid that they wouldn’t be able to teach high school. Sometimes they put them back in because the parents thought there were better opportunities for their children in the institution of school. Many times they put them in because they want to play sports. I know one mom who has her daughter in a school that will give her an associate degree when she’s done with high school.

OK… she’s laying out the reasons here for why some of the homeschooled kids went into regular high schools. Nothing here to refute.

But what I never hear from these parents is what they gave up to put the students into regular school after homeschooling. And having done both and after comparing and contrasting the results, I think what is given up is worth at least considering!

Am I sensing a bit of a grumpy temperament here?

1. You’re breaking up the family. Literally. The best parts of the day the regular schooled students will be away form his or her parents and siblings. And yes I realize the rest of the society already does this and accepts it as normal. But if you’ve been homeschooling it might be a bit of a shock. No longer will the opinions of the parents and relationships with siblings be the most important part of the high school student’s life. Teachers will also get a say and have sway. And so will peers. Having and keeping “friends” will be more important than keeping up relationships with parents and being with siblings. It’s just part of the price.

I honestly would not agree that my mornings are the best part of the day — I’m not a morning person and would be positively bitey if I had to deal with schooling my kids then. Sports and such usually happen in the afternoon so that would be out. Truthfully, I miss working outside the home so I’d be pretty miserable if I was home from 8-3.

This also assumes that it is impossible to have family time with both parents working and the kids in school. The good parents I know *MAKE* the time. It means that certain activities don’t happen and certain nights are non-negotiable family nights. I know families that actually *gasp* sit around the table and eat dinner and take turns talking about each other’s days.

As for the opinions of parents and relationships with siblings suffering, that’s fear-mongering at best. I was in private school for elementary school and public school for middle school, high school, and attended a public college. I always respected my parents’ opinions even if I may have disagreed. My relationship with my evil twin was actually *better* when we weren’t in the same classes and in college when we saw each other monthly. Yes, teachers get a say in things but it doesn’t necessarily mean that the teacher becomes the ultimate authority. Ditto with friends. Having and keeping friends never replaced my family. EVER.

I know Sara of A Shower of Roses manages this pretty well. Sara, could you please share your secrets in the comments?

2. Mom and Dad will no longer control the curriculum. Oh, there can be meetings with the teachers and principal and maybe there will be attempts to sway the school board from time to time if things get too out of hand, but for the most part, you won’t know what’s in the novels that are assigned (because for the most part, they won’t be classics that you’re familiar with!) and you won’t know what’s being presented in class that’s NOT on the syllabus.

Yeah… this is pretty suspect because it’s a pain to cover the material that *IS* on the syllabus, especially as teachers now have to “teach to the test”. Anything not on the syllabus usually isn’t covered. As for the novels, I’ve checked with my English teacher friends and they’re more than happy to have you read the same books that your kids are reading in class — heck, I actually read a couple of the books on my own years before I encountered them in any of my classes. (I taught myself to read when I was three. I read graphic novels of some of the classics on my own in elementary school and read others because I heard them mentioned in books and was curious.)

Regarding curriculum, any high school worth its salt will show you their curriculum and how it measures up to state standards and the standards of the various public universities. In California, my school showed the graduation requirements next to the entrance requirements for the CSU and UC schools. If you want your kids to have any kind of post-secondary education, you need to follow those guidelines. This doesn’t mean that you can’t teach your kids about something like woodworking, auto repair, music appreciation, or cooking outside of their school day. Lots of parents do. It’s called “spending quality time with your kids”.

One of my friends was buying a book for her daughter that she needed for a literature class. While waiting in line, she opened the book and started reading about a pretty explicit sex act! She had no clue something like that was going to be covered in class at this particular Catholic School.

I’m mentally going through the list of books that I read in my English classes that didn’t have some kind of sexual subject matter in them. Shakespeare is chock full of sexual references and we encountered the subject numerous times in my junior honors English classes and AP English. Sex is part of life. Did we focus on the sex? No. Was it in context? Yes. I can name a few books where I don’t remember anything sexual (Tom Sawyer and Huckleberry Finn come to mind) but if you’re going to read American literature, you’ll find it.

But more importantly, if the student comes to something in his or her studies that they find fascinating, there won’t be any time or inclination to study it in depth and even if there is, there won’t be any credit for it! at least not in this class. What the school, teachers and school board feels is important is what will be presented for study. Everything else will fall by the wayside.

This is where I seriously call “bull feces!” The Internet didn’t really become a thing until my junior year of high school and yet I found lots of time to pursue my own interests through Girl Scouts, reading anything and everything I could get my hands on, checking out piles of books from the library… I knew more about geography and world politics as a 5th grader than some adults do because I was fascinated by countries and cultures. I had pen pals from all over the world and I explored my interest in Broadway musicals through piano and choir. When I got Internet access, I stumbled across Celtic Christianity… and met my husband Jon because he had a webpage on it on his student site at St. Olaf.

Anyone want to tell me that it’s impossible to explore one’s interests now?

3. Lots of parents give up because they think they can’t teach this that or the other thing. Well news flash – there are teachers in schools that can’t teach them either. I still remember Mr. Ball, my 9th grade religion teacher that made discussions of theology so dull and boring that I didn’t want to take up the topic again until I was in my early 30s. Then there was Mr. Drum the math teacher – not so affectionately known as Mr. Hum Drum. But my favorite of the unfavorites was a science teacher with a Ph.D. behind his name that giggled when he was trying to explain to me about fruit flies mating and passing on genetics. Seriously. And I’ll bet if most of these parents who are so willing to pass on the task of teaching thought back, they could think of some not so stellar performances from their academic background as well. It’s not like we’re homeschooling back in the 80’s! If you need help teaching a subject, there are plenty of ways to find help! This is one of the lamest of excuses these days.

We’ve all had crappy teachers. I didn’t love chemistry until I took it in college and I think that I would have loved it if I’d had a certain chemistry teacher in high school instead of the loser that taught me. Ditto with geometry. However, I had some teachers in high school (my teacher for Algebra 1 and 2) who was passionate about making sure her students learned and who would meet with kids before school, during T period, and after school if they needed help. I was a peer tutor in my high school and tutored a number of subjects. Yeah, there are stupid teachers but there are also teachers that LOVE their subject so much that their students learn.

4. Passing on morals and values. My 9th grade son and 8th grade daughter do not know what twerking is. I’d like to leave it that way.

I actually had to go onto Facebook and ask what this was. (Thanks to Paula linking a video of it, I now have the desire to pour bleach on my eyes.) According to my teacher friends (both parochial and public schools), it is verboten at dances and at some schools, it will cause you to be suspended. And seriously, how are you going to keep them from finding out? Lock them in an ivory tower until they turn 30? If they do any kind of post-secondary education, the term will come up. Why not explain now why it is unacceptable behavior?

They also know what the church teaches about sexuality and marriage, something even their Catholic high school counterparts seem a bit shaky on. Which is not to say that they’ll always stay on the right path, but if they veer off it will be a conscience decision and not a straying due to ignorance.

I’m pretty sure my LifeTeen leader friends are pretty clear with their kids on what the Church teaches regarding sexuality and marriage. (Actually, I *KNOW* they do. I’ve seen videos of their talks on this.) There’s this entire thing called “Theology of the Body” and I have friends who specifically study it and teach it. Again, is she planning to cloister her kids until age 30?

5. You won’t reap the values of all of your hard work to date. The hard part of homeschooling is getting these kids to read, write and get to grade level in math. The rest of it is cake. But we get these kids to master the mechanics of reading and English Grammar, and then we pass them off to someone else to reap the benefits!!

Wow… so my brother learning math and being able to calculate area/volume to build raised beds for my mom’s garden doesn’t count? My brother composing an entire impromptu speech on the color blue for his “Communications” merit badge is irrelevant? My mom proof-reading my “Project B” (a 30+ page research paper for AP US History) on “The Scopes Trial and the Debate over Creation and Evolution Teaching in America” was minor?

Why?

After all of these years we can finally read the great books and delve into them for analysis and discussions with our own children! Our kids can finally write something that is actually interesting!! and the science and math are actually challenging! Why on earth should I let someone else get my students when it’s finally getting to be less of a chore and more of a pleasure? It’s like being in a two man relay and letting someone else finish the winning lap and get all the glory. Nope. I’ve enjoyed crying through Uncle Tom’s Cabin and the Call of the Wild and next year I can’t wait to do Shakespeare and read my kid’s research papers. I’m invested in the curriculum financially, intellectually, spiritually and emotionally – a lot more than I would be if I was just waiting for grades to come out a few times a year.

By the way, The Call of the Wild is on the 7th grade required list in California. You might want to reconsider your comments on “getting your kids to grade level”. I’m also a bit amazed that your kids haven’t done Shakespeare yet as we were doing that in 7th grade at my middle school and Greek tragedies in 6th grade. Did I mention that my parents had read the plays before and could actually discuss them with us? Did I mention that I’ve read a few works like The Little Prince and The Stranger (Camus) in both English and French because of my crappy California public school education?

I’d also assert that my parents were quite invested in my schoolwork and it wasn’t just about grades that came out every 6 weeks. My dad helped me with my trig homework and my mom proofed my English papers. My dad was forced to learn some French because my evil twin and I would have conversations in it when we were out with him. πŸ™‚ (This led to some really interesting adventures.) My mom went over our resumΓ©s in Social Studies with a fine-toothed comb and talked me through some of the personal statements I had to write for college applications

And that’s what I would give up if I gave up homeschooling for the high school years.

Yeah… I think I’ve made the point that my parents didn’t lose out on any of this. πŸ™‚

**NOTE: I AM NOT SAYING THAT YOU SHOULD NOT HOMESCHOOL YOUR KIDS THROUGH HIGH SCHOOL. THAT IS YOUR DECISION TO MAKE. THE POINT OF THIS ENTRY WAS TO POINT OUT FALLACIES IN HER ARGUMENTS**

19 thoughts on “Why I Am Not Homeschooling Daniel (I): The Post That Triggered This

  1. If we have a secret for keeping the family together, it’s dinner. Every night. It’s very rare that we don’t sit down together. There might be someone missing for boy scouts, or AHG, or something else, but everyone not required to be out of the house would be together for dinner. We talked about our days, or, more frequently, more elevated topics after the discussion descended into the plot of some inane tv show, and Don would make the request, “Higher level, please!”

    Depending on what activities the high schoolers have been involved in, that’s the most time they would get to spend with their siblings. They immediately retire to their rooms for homework until we call everyone back together for family prayers around 9 p.m. As annoying as it can be, (because I would like them to give hugs and go to bed!) that’s the time that they all choose to visit with me and play with each other, so bedtime gets fairly late for the younger ones. Because of the flexibility of homeschooling, they’ve been able to have that fun time together. The younger ones can stay in bed later than if they had to catch the bus for school. I don’t know how attached they would be to one another if bedtimes were strictly enforced.

    I’ve said before…each family has to make the choice that is best for each child, each year. Some of the things that Elena said are true, but they don’t have to be that way. Parents often relinquish control entirely when they send their kids to school. Some parents are excellent at keeping communication open and frankly discussing books, lessons, and sexuality. There’s not a perfect answer, and we’re all just doing the best we can with the skills and temperaments we have.

  2. I don’t know, wasn’t the whole point of her post that they’re things to consider? I don’t seem the harm in considering them. That said, there is one major point I think that also needs to be considered: if one, as a homeschooling parent were active in your child’s life, moral development, and education – presumably that same parent should be highly involved when and if their child attends instituttional school.

    If sending children to institutional schools meant that parents HAD to sit back and passively let the school/culture raise their kids (which too many parents do) then by all means – avoid them at all costs! But that’s not the case.

    There are more influences in your kid’s life when you send them to institutional schools, some of them are competing, others are complementary; however, an actively involved parent is still usually hugely influential.

    • I agree in that they’re things to consider — I just think they’re misguided.

      Thanks for weighing in. I always appreciate what you have to offer.

  3. I want to support and reiterate some of what you said, while also refuting her statements further.

    She begins her argument as simply things to consider, but her tone is defensive right away, which is probably because she feels like she needs to justify homeschooling past eighth grade (possibly due to interactions with other, now-former, homeschooling parents). While I understand that, her defensiveness leads to her fear-based fallacies, rather than the exploration of the potential costs of moving from homeschooling to institutionalized schooling.

    Some of what she says is factual. Yes, this change means less influence over what one’s child is learning and means less contact time with one’s child. However, her biases and panic come through abundantly clear as she grasps at straws and uses half-arguments and loaded diction meant to evoke fear, rather than true reflection (again, her stated point).

    (My abbreviated, point-by-point response is below.)

    1. While, yes, sending children to school means being physically separated for upwards of six or seven hours per day, the notion of “breaking up the family” is loaded with negative connotation. Am I to assume that she and her children have no activities that take place separately from one another? If that’s not the case, are those activities also breaking up the family? Ultimately, in all relationships, we have time together and time apart. Different relationships require different amounts of togetherness to thrive, and she is simply working from the premise that more is always better. Where does this notion come from? I think that’s worth reflecting on as well and would be part of any honest, non-fear-based assessment of whether to continue homeschooling into high school. However, she ignores this question and runs on assumption and the fear of peer influence.
    2. Parents have access to all established curricula. Many schools, mine included, also use the Internet to communicate current homework, class notes, and study guides. Also, while control is lost, knowledge is not. Her example of the mother at the Catholic school who “started reading about a pretty explicit sex act” in a literature book definitely pushed my buttons. Not only does Elena fail to explain which text, but the mere existence of a sexual act in literature is not reason to toss the book out. If it were, Shakespeare’s plays, Chaucer’s Canterbury Tales, and THE BIBLE would all be inappropriate. I teach The Kite Runner, for example, and it includes a scene of rape. The scene is not gratuitous, nor is it exceptionally graphic, and it is definitely not titillating or erotic. Why teach a book that mentions rape? Because it deals with the very real issues of political unrest, racism, and power struggles in the modern Middle East – all of which students, especially Christian students, need to explore. It is not the only option for exploring this, but after reading the entire book (and other books dealing with similar issues), my department came to the conclusion that this book was the best option for achieving these goals. However, if Elena or the mother in question had simply opened to that scene and read it without context, she could easily disparage it as “a pretty explicit sex act,” misleading readers because she didn’t take the time to fully explore the curriculum that she is so afraid of losing control over. (If The Kite Runner is too modern for those reading, replace it with my classic examples above; the references to sex acts in those are often more explicit.)

    Ultimately, she comes across, here, as not wanting to be bothered with somebody else’s curriculum, with learning what others have to say, which means she prefers to cloister her children than to expand her own worldview enough to discern what it means for them. I would argue that high school is a great baby-step for students and parents to share in that discernment, together. High school teachers, especially at private schools, will take the time to listen to parental concerns and share ideas, something both parent and child can learn from.

    There are certainly things discussed that aren’t captured on the syllabus, but there’s that fear, again. I told my parents about school on a regular basis, as do most of my students (based upon what I hear back from their parents). This is another chance to have discussions about how to navigate a world outside of the family unit, how to put faith into action. Elena comes across as so panicked that she cannot even fathom allowing her children to hear the ideas of others, which makes her argument even less viable.

    More later – I need to go spread my evil thoughts to unsuspecting Catholic school children. πŸ˜‰

      • No problem! I like to exercise my rhetorical muscles, even as I know my arguments are not coming out perfectly.

  4. I’d much rather parents be FOR homeschooling rather than AGAINST traditional schooling.

    However, I do agree that minimizing opportunities for trouble is an important part of parenting. People don’t need to be sheltered from the idea of ‘ twerking’ but they don’t need to attend dances that allow it (yes they could get suspended, but really thats like a speeding ticket threat: lots of people still do it).

    Maybe I was an especially bad kid, but I could’ve used a lot fewer opportunities for trouble!

  5. As in every other area, I’m finding myself moderating over time on issues of home vs. traditional, private vs. public. I’ve always known I was never never never NEVER called to homeschool my kids. The very idea made me break out in a cold sweat. But I have nothing but admiration for those who do it. I think every family has to find the path that serves their charisms and the personalities under their roof the best. It’s fine for Elena to be passionate and to lay those reasons out for her own benefit; she knows what she would be missing if her choices were different. The rest of us have to think through our choices with equal care. Which is why our family spent an entire year trying to find a way to put our developmentally disabled daughter in Catholic school, and eventually decided that she is better off in the public schools.

    • I really do admire those who can homeschool their kids. It’s why I asked Sara for her feedback because she’s homeschooled/homeschooling all 6 of hers up to high school.

      I also don’t begrudge Elena’s decision to homeschool her kids at all — it should be her decision. My problem with her entry is that the reasons she gave for not putting a homeschooled kid in high school have a number of lies, half-truths, and scare tactics. It’s a hard enough decision to make and I think that parents making it deserve to have a balanced view of what high school will look like. My friend Crystal is a high school teacher and I asked her to weigh in specifically because she could address the literature aspect of things.

      I also know the process you went through with trying to figure out how J could attend the Catholic school where your son is and I think you made the right decision, hard as it was to make it.

      • πŸ™‚ I know you know the process we went through–mostly sharing it for the benefit of others who haven’t walked the whole trail with us! I guess I’m just always trying to be cautious in how and what I say. My word for this year is “charity,” which was much easier when it was fresh in January than it has turned out to be later…but I keep trying not to pass judgment on anyone!

    • I admire you for choosing to put your daughter in the public schools. I teach in a Catholic school, and while I believe we provide an excellent education, we do not have the facilities or properly trained faculty to give students with developmental disabilities the accommodations that will help them to thrive. I teach a couple of students whose parents still opt to send them to our school, and while I adore these students, my heart breaks for all that I cannot give to them, due to both my minimal training in that area and the constraints of a more traditional, college-preparatory classroom.

  6. Part III

    Part II

    The following quote is another example of why her posts comes across as panicked and fear-mongering, rather than as a reasonable call for reflection: “But more importantly, if the student comes to something in his or her studies that they find fascinating, there won’t be any time or inclination to study it in depth and even if there is, there won’t be any credit for it!” Ok, first, we have the false premise that there is no time to study in more depth. As you stated, Jen, you found time to develop your interests. I did, as well, and many of my students have vibrant lives outside of the classroom. Yes, many kids and parents subscribe to the fallacious view stated above, but it’s simply not true. I broke things down for my honors students once – how much time they actually have versus their constant assumption that they are too busy. The fact is that one of my best students took Sunday as what I would consider a true Sabbath – devoted solely to the Lord and to his family, while also sleeping at least seven hours per night, commuting 30 minutes each way for school, and participating on the swim team. Not only did he complete his honors-level coursework with diligence, but he kept up various hobbies, including beekeeping!

    Beyond that false premise lies the faulty belief that work is only valuable if it coutns for something. Part of what’s beautiful about homeschooling is it takes students out of the “rat race” for points and grades. It does little but pull away from her argument. I cannot tell whether it is revealing where her concerns actually lie or is simply a last-ditch effort to convince everybody of her perspective. Either way, it falls flat.

    3. The fact that some teachers are ill-equipped or down-right terrible doesn’t change the fact that my one semester of calculus over fifteen years ago does not prepare me to teach it to a student. Yes, some teachers are terrible, and that should certainly be reflected upon, but the way she approaches this issue kills her credibility. Again.

    While I agree with her that there are a ton of resources out there, which is awesome, I take issue with the notion that those resources are an equal substitute for a well-educated teacher who has devoted his or her life to the teaching of this subject, especially once a student gets into physics or the higher levels of math, but also in terms of literary criticism and composition for upper-end students.

    I think a more reasonable approach would be the reminder that this isn’t a deal-breaker, necessarily. The resources exist, and students can enroll for a few hours per week at a community college without completely giving up homeschooling. Or parents can work hard to develop curricula for their children, combining their own research with things like iTunes U.

    4. I agree with passing on morals and values, but she fails to address when such morals and values should be put to the test, so to speak. If not at fourteen, is eighteen the right age? And if so, why? Maybe it should be twenty-five, when her children can make better decisions. I agree with her that she shouldn’t send her children out into the world simply because everybody else is, but once again, her argument fails to address when it would be ok for her children to learn what twerking is.

    If I had a child in high school, I would be that obnoxious parent who attends the first dance as a volunteer to determine whether he or she could go to the dances. Then, I would have a very detailed discussion about what happens and how it fits into our moral code. Trust me, I agree that she has valid concerns in this area because the dry-humping that passes as dancing for many students is an issue with many layers, but the greater tragedy, in my opinion, is not using this as a learning opportunity, whether she sends her children to these dances or not.

    Any Catholic school will teach things like Theology of the Body and use church-approved materials in theology class. My students learn the Church’s view on sexuality in both freshman and senior theology, and while some theology teachers say things that are contrary to Church teachings (because they are human), Elena’s children should be well-equipped to deal with that. This has occurred at my school, and brings me to a major point in my ramblings.

    Beliefs Are Forged in the Fire of Argumentation and Challenge
    My students who have grown up in Catholic schools are often shocked when I discuss my experiences as a public school student – not because of the horrors of a secular education but because my friends and I discussed religion FAR more often than they do. Theological discussions were frequent at my public school that sat in a town where church-going Christians were divided into five main factions: Catholics, Mormons, Baptists & Charismatics, Jehovah’s Witnesses, and mainliners (Methodists, etc.). Add to that the rare atheist and the non-church-attending spiritual, and we had some rousing conversations at lunch. My friends and I were all stronger as a result of these discussions, and my students are often shocked when they encounter the anti-Catholic views held by many Baptists and Charismatics. They have no clue about how to defend their beliefs, their argumentation skills have atrophied in their secluded world where everyone seems to agree, whether they do or not. Witnessing is completely foreign to them. Defending their faith seems to daunting a task.

    Yes, sending one’s children out to take on other influences is scary, but it also creates the potential for growth, an acknowledgment she fails to address.

    5. This is just silliness, pure silliness. Read along with your children! Do you know how excited most English teachers would be if parents did this? Imagine the community of readers we could create!

    Ok, I’m done. I apologize if I went wayyyyyy too long on this.

  7. Okay, here we go. Let me start off saying that I went to public school my entire life – as the only child of a single parent, my mom didn’t have a lot of choice in the matter. But I received an excellent education, had lots of outside interests (band, choir, girl scouts, church), and was well grounded in areas where it mattered.

    In her second paragraph, it seems her attitude is “IT’S NOT FAIR THAT THE NON-HOMESCHOOLED KIDS (used to be, but no longer for whatever reason), GET TO ASSOCIATE WITH OUR PRECIOUS, PROTECTED KIDS.” Isn’t maintaining long-term friendships an important value, and something to be treasured?

    1. Breaking up the family: My mom and I had both breakfast and dinner together every day. Even on nights when I had scouts, or a band concert, or whatever, it might be fast food, eaten in the car on the way to said event, but we ate together, and talked about our day, and any number of things. When she died 3 years ago, at 70, she was still my best friend. I talked about everything with her.

    2. Nothing new to add – you said it already.

    3. Yes, I had some bad teachers – including the ones that looked the other way when my bestie and I were being bulled. But once I hit high school, I was very blessed. I had great teachers, got along with all of them, and a few were special mentors to me. My senior year, for my US Government class, we had our city’s mayor for a teacher, so part of our class requirements was to attend 3 city council meetings over the course of the year, and then write a paper about what we saw, what we thought about it, if we would have decided differently or the same as the council, and why.

    4. I managed to end up with excellent morals and values, not the least of which, that my mother passed on without ever a verbal example, just seeing her live out her life, was acceptance of everyone, no matter what they looked like, the clothes they wear, how much money they have, etc. By the way, what is “twerking”? I really don’t want to have to wash my eyes in bleach, so could you ‘splain it simple words?

    5. Your children aren’t your possessions, or a field to be harvested. I would think having a child who grows up to be a contributing member of society, able to do to the best of their abilities, one who cares about others, would be the reward. Not that you can polish your halo and say, “look what I’ve done.”

    Finally, while my mom couldn’t help me with schoolwork, as she barely made it through HS herself, she was quite interested. To use Elena’s example of a 2-man relay team, the point is that you hand off the responsibility, to let the other person finish, and do what is best for the team. Maybe that 2nd runner has a better sprint than you do, so they do get the glory. At that point, the important thing is that you won, together, not that YOU did all the work.

    I think I’m done.

    • Twerking is a form of dirty dancing in which one is gyrating and waving one’s butt in the air. It belongs in a strip club, not a middle/high school dance.

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