How To Completely Torpedo Any Progress Made By the Pro-Life Cause

Sunday was the 44th anniversary of Roe v. Wade so a lot of people are choosing to talk about abortion and the pro-life/pro-choice debate this week. I’ve been pretty busy so I didn’t know if I would get to blog on it but going through my image downloads from the last week and seeing this screenshot changed my mind:

Do I wanted to be associated with the pro-choice banner?

The answer I really wanted to give to the above question: “Yes! By far, I would rather be confused with a pro-choice person! Why? Because pro-choice people aren’t complete jerks about everything!!!”

Granted, there are people on both sides who are complete jerks about their position but I encounter this far more often in the pro-life movement than I do with my pro-choice friends. I don’t know if it’s because the pro-choice position allows for people to be fine with me making my choices and someone else making theirs or because the majority of my friends on the pro-choice side are fine with people disagreeing with them, but it really does feel like the pro-life/anti-abortion movement shoots itself in the foot on a daily basis.

Here are some ways that pro-lifers completely torpedo their cause:

[+] Calling any pro-choice person a “baby killer”. Since when has name-calling ever solved anything? Most of my pro-choice friends agree that abortion is murder and support it only in cases of rape/incest or if the life of the mother is in danger. They themselves would not get an abortion and find that name really offensive, enough so that most of them would probably run the other direction rather than have a conversation with the 40 Days for Life people.

[+] Protesting with pictures of aborted fetuses. I remember being at Urbana 2000 and seeing a picture of a child that had been aborted on the sign being held up by an Operation Rescue protestor who had come to picket the conference. (For those who don’t know, Urbana is a MASSIVE missions conference put on by Intervarsity Christian Fellowship, an evangelical organization for college students.) Seeing that poster didn’t make me automatically pro-life — what it did was make me want to never be associated with the cause at all. (Not to mention, WHO THE HELL DIDN’T DO THEIR RESEARCH AND FIGURE OUT THAT 99.99% OF THE PEOPLE AT THE CONFERENCE WERE PRO-LIFE AND THEIR PRESENCE THERE WAS POINTLESS?!?!?!?!?) I know people who are pro-life but who will never take their kids to the March for Life in DC or any of the local marches that take place across the USA because they don’t want their six year olds traumatized by those pictures.

[+] Making catty comments about how you don’t know *ANYONE* who has had an abortion nor would you ever be friends with someone like that. I would say with almost complete confidence that you probably *DO* know someone who has and making a statement like that can make that person feel incredibly isolated in addition to increasing their pain. For me, the single event that I can point to as the point at which my pro-life conversion started was when I was at an event at my college church and one of the other students there ended up confessing to me that she had an abortion after being raped. Her entire demeanor changed when she told me and I could see the intense pain on her face because it wasn’t a decision she wanted to make or was proud of making. In the last 18 years since, other friends of mine have told me about theirs because I am apparently caring and non-judgmental enough that they feel comfortable telling me. None of the women I know who have had one are remotely proud of it and many of them hide a great deal of pain because people make thoughtless comments about how horrible they must be.

[+] Opposing abortion and/or birth control but supporting the slashing of programs like WIC which help moms feed their kids. Hypocrisy, much? The reason WIC was started by former President Jimmy Carter was to take away reasons for women to get abortions. He felt that by providing mothers with a resource for feeding their young children, some of them might keep their babies. Daniel received WIC for four years and I honestly want to throatpunch politicians who want to cut programs like this but also oppose abortion. I mean, if you’re going to insist that women stay pregnant, the least you can do is to not make it harder for them to take care of their kids.

[+] Making nasty comments like the one the person made to me in the screencap above. Some of the most moral and caring people I know are pro-choice. If it came down to the choice of being associated with them or associated with some of the people I know who are pro-life, the pro-choicers would win hands down because I know that they would have my back if something happened to me and *HAVE* had my back at those times. There are people in every movement who are good/bad/kind/rude/whatever and you cannot paint all of the people on one side with a broad brush.

I’d like to close with this quotation by former Surgeon General C. Everett Koop:

The American ideal is not that we all agree with each other, or even like each other, every minute of the day. It is rather that we will respect each other’s rights, especially the right to be different, and that, at the end of the day, we will understand that we are one people, one country, and one community and that our well-being is inextricably bound up with the well-being of each and every one of our fellow citizens.

The Simple Woman’s Daybook: January 22, 2017

For Today… January 22, 2017

Simple Woman's Daybook

Looking out my window… dusk. The high was in the upper 40’s today according to Weather Underground. (I was in bed trying not to puke.)

I am thinking… about how to structure my homework due dates this week. I have one assignment due tomorrow (technically two but the second one can be turned in late) and a test in that class to do that is due on Tuesday night. After that, I have work due for another class on Tuesday and thankfully, my other class has a due date of Thursday.

I am thankful… for the almost 5 million marchers in the US and another 300,000 worldwide who took part in 673 marches (including two in Antarctica) yesterday for the Women’s March on Washington. I couldn’t participate because of the kidlet so I cheered people on instead.

One of my favorite things… whoever runs the site for P22, the mountain lion in the LA Hills. They put a pussy hat on him. 😀

I am wearing… jammies. Church today was a blue-green long-sleeved shirt and black slacks. I didn’t make it more than halfway through before I had to leave and go home to go to bed because the smell of someone’s coffee was making me feel nauseated.

I am creating… nothing at the moment after finishing my pussy hats this week.

I am watching… NCIS re-runs.

I am hoping… this doesn’t turn into the stomach virus that landed Daniel in the ER on Friday. (Thankfully, I have Zofran if it’s needed.)

I am learning… about special journals and subsidiary ledgers.

In my kitchen… Dad is making spaghetti for him and Mom. I’d be joining them for dinner if I wasn’t feeling so crappy.

In the school room… Daniel is chomping at the bit to go back tomorrow.

Post Script… for those who claimed that pro-lifers weren’t welcome at the March this weekend, go read what Cammie has to say on the subject.

Shared Quote…

So much for silly hats!

A moment from my day… My favorite sign thus far:

Even introverts marched!

Closing Notes: Stories on the march are here, here, here, here, here, here, here, here, and here.

Hosted by The Simple Woman.

7 Quick Takes: Subversive Crocheting, Betsy DeVos, and Puking Kids

7 Quick Takes

— 1 —

My only thought on the inauguration tomorrow. I promise.

An inauguration poem

— 2 —

Yeah… no. This is my thought on Betsy Devos’ qualifications:

Betsy and bears

By the way, this and this are how you deal with bears in schools. Note that guns are not involved.

— 3 —

Fighting for education. DeVos is a threat to education across the board. If you’d like to fight for schools, here are the senators to call:

— 4 —

A tip. If you ever need to get contact information for your congressional representatives, here’s the special URL:


Insert the House member or Senator’s last name for [lastname]. You’re welcome.

— 5 —

Subversive crocheting. I finished the first pussy hat yesterday and gave it to my (Episcopal) priest today. (She loves it.) God-willing, I can bang the second one out tomorrow and I can hopefully still march on Saturday.

Pussy hat #1

— 6 —

Wait, Jen. Did you just say that you might not march on Saturday? Yes. Daniel has been puking for almost 6.5 hours continuously and if he does have a virus, I’ll have to stay home and take care of him. While I’ll be pretty bummed to miss it, Daniel’s health comes first.

So seriously, pray that the kiddo’s tummy can calm down. I did two loads of puke laundry tonight and I’ve got at least two more waiting for me tomorrow morning.

**UPDATE** Sitting in the ER with Daniel waiting for them to give him fluids and check him out.

**UPDATE** They just gave him his first dose of Zofran. I’m definitely not going to be able to march tomorrow because of him. Thankfully, a piece of me will be there in the form of the hat I crocheted for my priest. I’m really bummed but this is, unfortunately, a part of motherhood — taking care of your kiddos and having to sacrifice your own plans for them.

**UPDATE** The kid was discharged around 3:00 p.m. with a script for Zofran. After getting his 5:30 dose, he went to sleep. I’m about to go fold and continue cycling all the puke laundry through but I’m kind of enjoying the quiet house and my dark room.

— 7 —

Some new music. I heard this on a local Christian radio station a few months ago and have had it stuck in my head since then.

For more Quick Takes, visit Kelly at This Ain’t The Lyceum.

{five favourites}: Things To Do Instead of Watching the Inauguration


It’s probably no secret that I find T-Rump to be a distasteful deplorable person and his administration to be a trainwreck in the making. Instead of watching the inauguration on Friday, I thought I’d let y’all know what I’m planning to do.


Make a pussy hat (or two). Technically, I’ll be doing that this week in between homework assignments. (For those who don’t know what one is, the website is here. They aren’t pornographic — they’re pink hats with cat ears.) I’m hoping to get two made this week: one for me and one for my priest because if I can’t march on Saturday because of my bum foot/ankle, at least a part of me will be at the march in the form of a hat I made.


Get ahead on homework. I don’t have class on Friday so I try to get ahead on homework if I can. I’ll have a test on Monday/Tuesday so I’ll also need to get a pre-test done.


Watch all the NCIS re-runs I have on the DVR. Mark Harmon is dreamy and I freaking love Pauley Perrette!


Pray. With someone like T-Rump taking over, we need all the prayers we can get!


Pretty much anything else. Yeah, even having my fingernails removed with pliers sounds better than watching T-Rump lie his pants off while swearing on a Bible.

Go love up Bonnie and DeBalino.

The Simple Woman’s Daybook: January 15, 2017

For Today… January 15, 2017

Simple Woman's Daybook

Looking out my window… sunny and around 40F. It’s a nice change from mornings when it’s 15F when I leave the house with a high in the 20’s.

I am thinking… about various homework assignments that are due in the next week.

I am thankful… that my kiddo FINALLY went to sleep around 1 a.m. after tantruming on and off for almost 9 hours. #autismproblems #ADHDproblems

One of my favorite things… soft grey kitties like the one asleep in the cat bed on my desk.

I am wearing… a long-sleeved Cougars shirt and jeans. Church clothes this morning were a charcoal grey top, my black slacks, and my black boots.

I am creating…

I am reading… My Badass Book of Saints: Courageous Women Who Showed Me How to Live by my friend Maria Johnson. I got to know her through podcasting stuff on SQPN and am really jazzed to finally get to read her book after gifting it to a number of people.

I am hoping… to finish my book today in between all of the homework on my plate.

I am learning… how to get kitty litter out of the bleach receptacle of the washing machine and the fabric softener receptacle on the dryer. *glares at Daniel* (The answer involves a toothbrush, an F crochet hook, and a dust buster.)

In my kitchen… stroganoff for dinner tonight. Yay!!! Good leftovers this week!!!

In the school room… Daniel has a four-day weekend.

Post Script… So let’s talk about how many buses are headed to DC for the inauguration vs. how many are headed there for the Women’s March on Washington. (Hint: It’s not even close.)

Shared Quote…

My sentiments exactly.

A moment from my day… Our offertory hymn this morning in honor of MLK Jr.

Hosted by The Simple Woman.

Biden vs. Reagan

Some moron on Facebook made the claim that Biden receiving the Presidential Medal of Freedom with Distinction takes the value of the award down a few notches.

Then again, this person voted for T-Rump so I question their ability to form coherent thoughts.

Biden is worthy of the award. Want to know who isn’t?


Let’s look at what each one has done:

-screwed up the higher education system in California during his tenure by cutting funding to it and causing programs at various colleges to be cut which forced many students out of said colleges or made it more difficult to graduate
-screwed up the economy of the state
-ratted out actors/actresses to HUAC while he was in Hollywood
-sicced the California Highway Patrol on a college protest, killing one person and blinding another while injuring hundreds of others
-sicced the National Guard on UC Berkeley to stop anti-war protests
-screwed up the state economy as governor of California
-broke the strike of air traffic controllers, causing massive job losses
-the travesty of trickle-down economics
-raised takes by a third, screwing the middle class while cutting taxes for the wealthy
-tripled the national debt
-escalated the Cold War
-ignored the AIDS crisis, leading to thousands of deaths and infections of people
-the Iran-Contra affair

He gets no credit for the Berlin Wall falling (that was his successor) or Communism failing in Russia (that was all Gorbachev).

-overcame massive personal tragedy when his wife and daughter were killed by a truck driver and he had to be sworn in at his son’s bedside
-commuted 90 minutes each way during his 36 years in the Senate so he could be present for his kids
-floor manager for the passage of the Comprehensive Crime Control Act
-met with Soviet Foreign Minister Andrei Gromyko to educate him about American concerns and interests, securing several changes to address objections of the Foreign Relations Committee in getting the SALT II Treaty ratified by Congress
-headed both the Senate Foreign Relations and Judiciary Committees
-spearheaded the Violent Crime Control and Law Enforcement Act of 1994 which included the Violence Against Women Act
-negotiated with Republicans to pass large amounts of legislation including bills to help with the recession Obama inherited from Bush and the Bankruptcy Abuse Prevention and Consumer Protection Act in 2005
-created a plan that foreign diplomacy experts say would have prevented the rise of ISIS by dividing Iraq into three ethnoreligious regions

Joe Biden has 44 years of positive work in DC. Reagan screwed up the state of California and was a sub-par president at best. I would argue that Reagan did not deserve his award while Biden clearly did.