About Jen

Jen isn't quite sure when she lost her mind, but it is probably documented here on Meditatio. She blogs because the world needs her snark at all hours of the night... and she probably can't sleep anyway.

60th Anniversaries and 80th Birthdays

Greetings from Mount Vernon, Washington: the tulip capital of the world! Considering how weepy and devastated I was on Thursday, I have to say that being with my family was the best medicine. My flights on Friday were really good and I spent my layover in Chicago drinking Starbucks and reading Memories of God by Roberta Bondi. On the leg from Chicago to Seattle, I got a letter (en francais) written to a friend in Luxembourg and realized that if I was going to be lucid while around my family, I needed to pray. So I spent the last hour (of four!) praying to work through this all OK. When I landed, my aunt met me and the trip up to Redmond allowed me to talk a lot out with her.

We drove from Redmond to Mt. Vernon with my little cousins and oogled cars on the way up. When we got there, my cousin Steve, his wife Andrea, their sons Benjamin and Nathaniel, and my aunt Dori, were up there. I got to hold Nathaniel (4 months) for the first time! Shortly after, my parents arrived with my uncle David. My great-aunt Jean, her daughter Carol (my mom’s cousin), and Carol’s kids Kira and Cord were there as well. Dinner was Chinese food that night. Happy Jen. Sari (9) and I cuddled and watched The Cosby Show that night after everyone left. Oh yes… I also found out that I still (at age almost 23) can still do cartwheels.

The next morning, I went into town withmy grandparents and we got the cake for my aunt Jean’s 80th birthday. That afternoon, we went to visit the tulip fields for the tulip festival. I got some good pictures and tromping around in the muddy fields was therapeutic for battling the “you’re not good enough” feelings I was dealing with from Thursday. (I’ll blog on this stuff when I get back to Ohio on Tuesday.) We then went to Fred Meyer (while I made a $tarbuck$ run) and headed back to my grandparents’ house. We had some more playtime with Nathaniel and Benjamin before we had to clean up and go to dinner at the airport restaurant. Dinner was great (as all dinners are in my family with 20+ people). Aunt Jean was totally surprised by her cake and my dad toasted my grandparents in Irish, forgetting the last line of the toast which my brother and I *graciously* reminded him off. 🙂 (We’ve only heard it about… 1500 times to recent memory.) We came back and did family pictures: the 4 generations of Cooley men, mixed pics, all the men, and all the women (who outnumbered the men). We then said our good-byes to Steve and company. I watched Animal Planet with Sean (my twin) and Sari before falling asleep and having Sari poke me to get off her bed (a couch) and go to my own bed.

It’s a grey, windy, yucky morning for Palm Sunday, so church isn’t happening. Jon has his hands full this morning with the ecumenical procession and I hope that has gone well. Meanwhile, I’m going to head upstairs and grab breakfast. 🙂

Colors

My boys don’t think I have enough peach and orange in my wardrobe and have set out to rectify this. Any ideas on getting cat fur off of clothes quickly?

Jen Weighs in On Various Things

It’s cold, grey, and yucky outside today, so I’m just going to blog on some stuff that I’ve had sitting in my chest for a few days…

Bad Attitudes
I was at a social gathering last week and someone made this remark: “9/11 was caused because we let too many foreigners into this country.” OK… this raised some red flags in me and though I was tempted to dopeslap him (and it literally took all my restraint not to), I managed to respond calmly. My response: “Actually, 9/11 was caused because of our attitudes toward other countries and the way our interaction with them has been negative at times.” Thankfully, someone then *quickly* changed the subject.

This happened over a week ago but it gets to me because there’s a bigoted, ignorant attitude in *some* (not all) of the people around here and I have to interact with enough of them in public to make me really cynical about the amount of nationalistic propaganda that we’re fed to make us think that the world actually likes us. Read Barbara Kingsolver people. Canada has much less strict immigration policies than we do and nobody hates them. They’re a free country and nobody has tried to blow up the CN Tower in Toronto. (If anyone says “they hate us because we’re free”, there will be much dopeslapping. Capeche?) I mean, when some troops were passing an Iraqi man, he called out, “Democracy! Whiskey! Sexy!” Do we *really* want to have the image in the world of being a place of vices? People had to be told *not* to send pr0n to U.S. troops (along with pork and propaganda) — what kind of image does that conjure in a culture (like Iraq) that is more reserved than ours?

I also come from a large city in California where quite a few of my classmates were… foreigners. There were times (especially in my honors and AP classes) where I was a very definite minority. I cannot imagine growing up in any other environment and know that I am blessed to have had Muslim, Buddhist, and Jewish friends while growing up. Having Persian food for Nawruz, Chinese food for the New Year, latkes on Channukah, and adoboh on various occasions gave me a love for different kind of ethnic foods and I lament the fact that there is no good Lebanese food around here. having people from different countries was indeed a blessing and was not the cause of 9/11.

The Fuss over Samaritan Purse’s Aid Involvement
I respect what Franklin Graham’s organization does — I’ve participated in “Operation Christmas Child” and my neighbor’s daughter has gone to Africa to give relief to some missionary doctors. However… I get leery when I hear them offering “spiritual aid” to the people of Iraq in addition to the much needed things like food, water, clothing, medical supplies, and other things. I would love if the nation of Iraq was to convert and follow Jesus — I mean, the Gospel needs to be spread. However… is this really the time to go in and actively tell people “you need Jesus”? Before I came to Christ as a 14 year old, it *REALLY* irritated me when people would come up to me and tell me that out of the blue. I mean, do those people (who would come up to me) really care about anything else other than the spiritual brownie points for “winning souls to Jesus”? Do they actually care about me as a person??? (Soul winning, by definition, is wrong because it implies that we have the power to change hearts. Last I checked, only God had that power.) There are other ways of witnessing that do not involve words. Friends of mine who came over to the U.S. as refugees became Christians because the doctors that healed them were Christians. Others saw missionaries handing out aid to people and saw God’s love in that. Those missionaries loved those people… and waited until an opportune time to witness.

There’s also the matter of Graham’s track record on speaking about Islam. Would you really trust someone who has called Islam “an evil and wicked religion that ferments violence” to go into a 97% Muslim country? His words really make the U.S. campaign in Iraq seem like a war against Islam, instead of a war against Saddam. It’s been commented upon that if he goes in, he needs to not do anything to make life difficult for the 600,000 Christians already there. There are plenty of *other* relief organizations that don’t have the reputation that Samaritan’s Purse has gained because of their leader’s words and could go in inconspicuously and witness while providing aid. (To be fair, I’ve read what Ken Isaacs, SP’s international director has to say and I can deal with *him* going in, just not the thought of Graham doing it.)

The Candy Bomber
A former Air Force pilot wants to drop a load of candy on Baghdad when the war ends. This would be good if it could be ensured that the chocolate was hallal (is there any chocolate that isn’t?) and it would definitely make the kids less scared of planes flying overhead.

Students Suspended for Confederate Garb
“I had no idea that anyone would be offended by this.” — Brook Armstrong. Chica, are you forgetting that the flag you are so proudly sporting was flown during a war that decided if a race of people was human? Are you an African-American woman? Can you understand the pain of the African-American community when seeing that flag and what it represents? Perhaps you might want to ask some of the African-American students at your high school why they are so offended. That flag is used today by Aryan Nation people and connotes a time of persecution. It’s great that you want to take pride in your Southern heritage. Might I suggest finding a more creative way of doing it?

Spiritual Fruit Survey

From Victoria:

FAITH
1. What religion do you follow? Christianity, more specifically Lutheranism
2. What religion were you raised as? I converted to Christianity when I was 14 and I was Episcopalian.
3. Do you believe that forgiveness is a religious property, or a human property? A bit of both though I think it should be an integral part of religion
4. Do you believe in magic? I’m open to the possibility
5. What was the last promise you broke? To get the leaves on the lawn up by Tuesday.
6. Have you ever said the words to a prayer and not meant it? I don’t think I have.
7. Do you believe that anyone could be perfect? Jesus was.

HOPE
1. Did you get everything you wanted over the last holiday season? Yes.
2. Regarding your future, what is the best thing you could hope for? That all would work out with regard to my candidacy and that Jon could find a first call parish that pays enough to cover his student loans.
3. Do you let yourself get your hopes up for something even if you know that there is a large chance of failure? I do and there are times when I regret it.
5. Have you ever bought a lottery ticket? Nope. The lottery is a tax on those who are bad at math.
6. Do you gamble? No… I’d rather put the money toward something like food, shelter, or bills.
7. Have you ever had something called off on account of bad weather, but then gone ahead and done it anyway? Yep.

CHARITY
1. What causes do you support? Human rights, ending Christian persecution,women’s rights, environmental causes, justice issues, hunger issues
2. What causes have you given money or time to? Environmental issues and hunger issues
3. Have you ever worked in a soup kitchen or done another kind of outreach for the homeless? Yep
4. Would you ever consider joining the Peace Corps, Amnesty International, or another travel? I would do it if I could work it wround Jon’s schedule.
5. Do you give money to the homeless on the street? I have in the past
6. Have you ever helped out a friend with basic needs, like rent or food? Yes.
7. What’s the greatest extent you’ve gone to help a friend in need? Buying them groceries.

FORTITUDE
1. What are you most afraid of? Heights, close spaces, snakes, dogs…
2. What did you do today that was really brave? I opened up my MCI bill.
3. Who is your favorite superhero, and why? Larry Boy!!!! He’s cool!
4. Would you put your life in danger to rescue someone? Definitely
5. If you were to face a wizard, would you want more courage, more brains, or more heart? I tend to move with my heart on things, so I’d go with that.
6. Have you ever gotten stage fright? Oh yes…
7. Do you consider yourself to be a leader or a follower? I switch interchangeably.

JUSTICE
1. Have you ever been summoned for jury duty? Yep, and I’ve gotten out of it each time.
2. If they reinstituted the draft (for both genders), would you go, or would find some way out of it? I’d go and pray to come home safely.
3. Do you support capital punishment (the death penalty)? In limited cases
4. What should be guaranteed legal? The right for me to make choices about my own body (extrapolate from there as you will) and my right to free speech in peaceful protest
5. Do you believe that Dubya (good ole George) is rightfully President of the USA? This is too easy: NO!!!!!!!!!!!!
6. What was your favorite media circus trial? I hate all of them. The worst (other than OJ) was the dog mauling trial in L.A. I mean, the prosecuting attorney for Margery Knoller did an interpretive dance as her opening argument.
7. Have you ever written a letter to a politician? I regularly do. My senators and the usurper don’t listen, but hey… at least I try.

TEMPERANCE
1. What do you have the hardest time moderating yourself on? Cynicism and patience
2. Do you collect anything? Celtic crosses
3. Are you addicted to anything? Panicking about everything
4. Have you ever put anything on layaway or used an installment plan? Installment plans
5. What’s your preferred method of paying for things? Cash or check.
6. Tell us one thing you wish you hadn’t let yourself do? Tell my prospective employers that I’d only be here until August. Oy… such a bad decision.
7. Do you feel that you obsess over things? Yes.

PRUDENCE
1. Who is the wisest person you know? My mother
2. Have you ever participated in a vigil? Yes: Easter Vigil, Matthew Shephard (1998), quite a few for 9/11 (I was in church almost every night that week)
3. Do you take advice when it’s given? Occasionally.
4. What area are you wisest in? Knowing when to fight and when not to fight
5. Do you drive defensively? When I learn to drive, I will.
6. Have you ever had unprotected sex outside of marriage? Nope. I don’t believe in unprotected sex and I don’t believe in pre-marital sex.
7. What did you learn today? Toilet paper rolls make good cat toys.