Positives of This Last Week

If you haven’t read my blog lately, you probably didn’t know that Daniel was in the hospital from Monday afternoon to Friday afternoon with a 7 hour ER visit on Sunday. In order to clean out my brain and try not to have this be hugely traumatic, I’m going to list the positives from this week.

[+] The ER staff: Our resident was wonderful and the ER doc on Sunday was one that we had before. Considering that they were slammed, they were good at listening when I had questions or was flipping out. Even though one of the triage nurses on Monday was a wench, the other one listened to me, took a rectal temp (which showed the fever), and got us back there quickly.

[+] Radiology: They were super patient with Daniel, pleasant with me, and didn’t act like it was a complete imposition to work with him. (I’m used to really bad radiology people from the hospital near where I grew up.)

[+] The PICU staff: they were wonderful as always. I wasn’t amused with the doctor on Tuesday morning at midnight who had no bedside manner skills for dealing with parents but the nurses were fabulous and the doctor on call for the week listened to me and let me ask questions in rounds. Our residents were gentle with him and more than happy to answer our questions. The nursing staff was freaking awesome. Our day and night nurses actually cared about how I was doing as well as Daniel and let me help with cares as much as I was comfortable. (Seriously, they let me help with putting in IV’s by being present with Daniel and talking to him while they poked him.) Some of them remembered us from two years ago which is both good and bad (mostly good). I think the best scene was his day nurse stroking his head and talking to him while he looked up at her with love.

[+] The respiratory therapists: They continue to be the most awesome people ever. I had two that I knew from the last time and the one working with us during the Tuesday midnight insanity was the best of the best, partially because he has an autistic kid and got Daniel used to the mask and calmed down while we were waiting for the Versed to kick in. The rest of them were patient with him and very gentle. Because of the way they worked with him, I can get him to do breathing treatments without a problem.

[+] The peds floor staff: They were swamped this week so there were some grumpy moments on my part. The best thing ever was that our favorite nurse in the world was assigned to him on Friday and she loved him up. I made sure he blew lots of kisses at her. She told me that she had signed up to be his primary nurse two years ago if he ever ended up in the hospital again and this makes me feel so much better knowing that we’re going to get her if she’s working. Two years ago, she’d take him and put him in her lap if she had charting to do. This time, she did everything she could to get us discharged and to get Daniel allowed to be out of his isolation zone.

[+]The residents and doctors: The attending on the floor was one that I knew from two years ago and she was happy to see Daniel looking good and to see how much she had grown. I have no complaints about the residents — they were great about answering questions and involving me in the decision-making.

It was a good week in many ways but a tiring one for me. I spent most of Saturday sleeping and will be asleep once this posts and my house panther removes her claws from me. I missed her a lot and asked Jon to bring her to me daily. Unfortunately, I didn’t get my wish on that.

7 Quick Takes: Bible Students Say, March for Life, and Hospital Adventures

7 Quick Takes

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March for Life. You’re probably not going to see it featured anywhere on the evening news apparently (I honestly haven’t paid attention because I’ve had other things going on this week like a kid in the hospital) but it’s taking place tomorrow in DC and smaller ones in cities across the nation. Online, there are various bloggers and others who are going dark and using their social media time to pray instead for an end to abortion. #godark4life UPDATE: NBC actually mentioned it and showed footage. I know some of my pro-life friends were shocked by this because it’s kind of hard to ignore 500K people in DC but most networks pretend it didn’t happen.

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Really? I saw this on a friend’s Facebook: Do Your Kids Respect You? 9 Ways to Change Their Attitude. I seriously *weep* for my generation if any of these things are surprising parenting techniques. They’re from Janet Lehman who appears on TV pushing her “Total Transformation” program for modifying your child’s behavior, also known as “setting limits and boundaries for your child and other things that should be common sense”.

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Update on Daniel. We got a positive diagnosis of RSV yesterday. On one hand, at least we know what it is. On the other hand, he’s down on the regular peds floor so he’s confined to his crib and his half of the room. This is irritating because he would like to go do laps around the peds floor thankyouverymuch. (It’s a gigantic square.) God willing, we’ll be discharged tomorrow and he’ll be back in school on Monday or Tuesday.

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The BEST Twitter EVER!!!! Rachel Held Evans introduced me to the awesomeness that is Bible Students Say… in which a Bible professor at an unnamed Christian college shares some of the more *interesting* things his students say in papers. It’s hysterically funny to me as someone with postgrad study in Bible and theology and the user pic of Jesus face-palming is totally fitting.

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What freedom looks like. I don’t remember who shared it but this is a Buzzfeed article on what happens when you leave Westboro Baptist Church. Answer: amazing things. Libby Phelps is forbidden to contact her family (probably that whole “shunning” thing) but she has gotten to cut her hair for the first time in 25 years, attend the inauguration, travel, make real friends, and get married.

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Kaia. You see this beautiful girl?

Miss Kaia

She needs a mama. Go here to see her profile and please share it with family and friends. Please also consider committing to pray for her.

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Brett. This adorable little boy needs a mama.

Brett's profile

Do you know who could be his mama? His profile is here. Go love on him.

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Blogging for Life, Take Two

OK… Daniel is doing better and I’m awake enough to see straight now.

It’s the 40th anniversary of the Supreme Court decision Roe v. Wade today and I have friends who have published posts on their blogs condemning the decision and talking about the 55 million babies killed since the legalization of abortion. I could probably do the same except that a.) I’m doubting the veracity of the number 55 million (it was 40 million 5 years ago and I don’t think things have been stepped up THAT much) and b.) I’d like to focus on some alternatives instead.

One of my (many) tangents is that those who want to put Planned Parenthood out of business need to fund their neighborhood crisis pregnancy center. Unfortunately, not every baby is wanted or comes at an opportune moment and these organizations can usually help in both situations.

Ramah International – California
Lifecall – California

Blogging for Life

Daniel is in the PICU at UCD Medical Center. (Updates can be found here.) I’d love to blog about the fresh hell that was last night in having to help hold him down for IV pokes and all but I’m massively sleep-deprived so pretend that there’s a lovely entry here and I’ll write it when the walls stop looking like they’re spinning.

I Don’t Want to Take Your Guns: A “Liberal” Discussing Gun Control

Most of my blog readers are too young to remember the 101 California Street shootings or maybe it didn’t register in your part of the country so I’ll fill you in: On July 1, 1993, a gunman burst into the Petit & Martin law firm and opened fire, killing 9 people and wounding 6. Among the dead were Jody Sposato, a young mother, and Michael Scully who shoved his wife under a desk and died shielding her with his body. The killing, at the time, was horrific and watching the people fleeing the building, police and ambulances coming, and people being brought out on stretchers is imbeded in my mind. It was the equivalent of watching the Virginia Tech massacre in 2007 to my 13 year old eyes. It inspired some legal and legislative measures that led to the Violent Crime Control and Law Enforcement Act, H.R.3355, 103rd Congress (1994) which took effect in 1994. I remember watching Jody’s husband Steve (?) Sposato and his daughter on Capital Hill during the signing of this legislation.

The Federal Assault Weapon ban (Title IX, subtitle A) was part of it and the whole thing expired on September 13, 2004 through a sunset provision. I remember being livid in 2004 that it wasn’t renewed/reauthorized/whatever the term because I have that vivid memory of the carnage on that day. That kind of thing makes an impression on a 13 year old. In doing research on this act so I could sound reasonably well-versed, I discovered that it was actually written by then-senator Joe Biden. (Interesting how history repeats itself now that Vice President Biden was in charge of coming up with policies after the Sandy Hook shootings?) It prohibited the ownership of certain types of weapons and magazines holding more than ten rounds of ammunition. I have yet to hear a compelling reason for someone to own such a weapon from the many hunters and gun enthusiasts that I know.

Another part of the legislation is the Violence Against Women Act. We failed to re-authorize that in 2012 which irritates me to no end but is not pertinent to this discussion as much as the Federal Assault Weapon Ban.

The NRA is currently engaging in fear-mongering of the worst nature and claiming that the regulations proposed by Biden mean that “the administration wants to take our guns”. Let’s examine why this is erroneous. Quoth the Wikipedia: “In District of Columbia v. Heller, 554 U.S. 570 (2008), the Court ruled that the Second Amendment protects an individual’s right to possess a firearm, unconnected to service in a militia and to use that arm for traditionally lawful purposes, such as self-defense within the home within many longstanding prohibitions and restrictions on firearms possession listed by the Court as being consistent with the Second Amendment. In McDonald v. Chicago, 561 U.S. 3025 (2010), the Court ruled that the Second Amendment limits state and local governments to the same extent that it limits the federal government.” (HT: Wikipedia article on Second Amendment to the Constitution of the United States) On other words, your right to own firearms is protected and has been upheld by the Supreme Court. President Obama cannot order all guns confiscated — he is limited by the decision of the judicial branch. (Do we need to review separation of powers and system of checks and balances?)

Another sign of fear-mongering and faulty reasoning is that they’re talking about arming teachers as a solution to preventing school shootings which is ludicrous. Why do I say this? Let’s look at a recent school shooting case that happened on January 10, 2013 in Taft, California. Instead of breaking out a weapon and shooting the student that had entered the class with a shotgun and had already shot one student, teacher Ryan Heber talked the student shooter into putting the gun down. A situation that could have resulted in 3 deaths ended with nobody dead with only one student critically injured. That would not have happened had the teacher been armed and forced to fire on the student shooter. It was the cool thinking of Mr. Heber that saved the day, not his ability to hit a target. The student shooter had been bullied by the students he shot so maybe the issue that needs to be tackled is bullying.

I have lived in rural areas of Minnesota and Montana where deer season is almost a state holiday. I fully understand people hunting to put meat on the table during the winter or as a rite of passage of sorts. I have family members who are hunters or who have hunted. For this reason, I am quite cognizant of the (unfounded) fear that people have of losing their guns. We had a parishioner who collected antique weaponry — while I’m a bit suspicious of having a halberd in the house with preteen boys, I would not support him having to give up his guns. These kids grow up with hunter safety being a rite of passage. I’m not worried about them or their parents. We have hunters in our congregation in northern California. I don’t support them having to give up their rifles.

The weapons in question are assault-style rifles that are made for the battlefield and magazines that hold more than ten rounds. Unless you are a soldier actively engaging in combat, there is no purpose to you owning one of those. As one of my snarky friends on Facebook commented, “Do you really expect the deer to shoot back?”

Let me reiterate: I don’t want to take your guns away from you. All I’m asking is that we have a national dialogue on the words “well-regulated” in the Second Amendment. Should we require gun owners to possess a license that shows that they have been through safety classes and understand the laws just as we require drivers to possess such a license? Are we really checking backgrounds during that ten-day waiting period (which was a result of the 101 California Street shootings) or are we BS-ing it? Yes, guns find their way into the hands of criminals — my small town just had a police officer shot in the line of duty about 3 blocks from where I live by a suspected gangbanger who apparently panicked. This is about taking actual steps to prevent it instead of just paying it lip service.

I’m sticking my neck out here and keeping comments open. Can we have a meaningful discussion on this or are people going to just call me a “lib” and make assumptions about where I stand? All I know is that I don’t *want* another Jonesboro middle school shooting, Columbine High School, Pearl High School, Virginia Tech, or Sandy Hook.

Other Plates Spinning That Did Not Make My Quick Takes

There were a couple things that did not make my Quick Takes (which were long this week):

[+] On Tuesday morning, a police officer was gunned down about 0.3 miles from where I live. My town is small but I rarely, if ever, do anything near the tracks except for perhaps going to dinner with my church ladies. According to all the news outlets which descended on the town, the shooter happened to be armed and apparently panicked when the police officer stopped to ask him about a burglary which it turned out was a misunderstanding. He then started firing at police who returned fire and the shooter killed himself. If I had been home at 11:30 a.m., I would likely have heard the gunfire and the sirens. I didn’t find out until Jon got home with Daniel and that afternoon, I discovered that every TV station in Sacramento had camped out in town and they stayed until after the candlelight vigil organized by some teenagers the next night. It’s the first officer killed in the line of duty in the history of the police department though it’s the second law enforcement officer killed in our small town in two months. (The other one was an animal control officer shot in November who had a 17 hour standoff with police. I actually heard all the sirens for that one.) The media has sensationalized some of the shock, mentioning people who are thinking about moving because it’s getting too violent. I’m wondering how many people they had to interview to get those soundbytes because I can’t think of anyone I know who even thinks that way.

[+] I finally got in to see my FNP today. (I was supposed to see her on Wednesday morning but Daniel came home sick from preschool and I had to reschedule my appointment.) I’m still having problems eating (as in, food is icky) and part of it might be that my stomach is so beaten up from antibiotics. I’m imbibing lots of yogurt to try and build up the bacteria in it but she’s getting me a GI referral just to be on the safe side. I’m also getting a rheumatology consult because it’s been two years since I’ve seen one and we’ve done all my medication adjustments with the head of medicine at the clinic instead of with a specialist. They took several vials of blood and we’re going to see what we find.