What Marriage is Teaching Me: August 2014

Mi amiga Amanda @ Worthy of Agape has a new link-up called “What Marriage Is Teaching Me”. If you want to take part this month, go here.

So what is marriage teaching me right now? Well, we’re currently living with my in-laws and waiting for another call while Jon makes his living supply-preaching, performing funerals, and performing marriages. It’s nerve-wracking for me because I’m the one who handles all the finances and I’m having to mentally calculate how we’re going to do certain things like pay insurance, make the car payment for my car, and pay for things that are necessary like prescriptions and school clothes for Daniel. (He is in a public school but they require a uniform so I had to pick up things for that.)

One good thing about this situation is that it isn’t new to us — we were in a similar situation 4 years ago and I know what is absolutely essential and what I can cut to save money. My anti-depressants = essential. Pedicure = kind of sort of essential because of the potential for things to go badly with my feet very quickly. Manicure = not essential. Eating out (other than date night) = not essential. We don’t watch TV (my in-laws don’t have one connected to an antenna or anything) and we don’t have smartphones so we’re not looking at huge cell phone bill for a potential data plan.

I’m learning in my marriage that we do much better if we tackle things together rather than me tackling them by myself. Money is a painful topic to discuss but putting either of our heads in the sand and hoping that it goes away is going to make things worse instead of making them better. Together, we can come up decent solutions that aren’t going to cause one of us resentment and force the other to be the enforcer.

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