Regarding My Quick Takes on Being the 47% (I)

This is going to be a multi-part entry because there were a lot of comments that need to be addressed. I know that Cari’s comment needs to be its own post and it’s also early in the weekend so there may be other comments that need addressing.

The first thing I want to do is let you know what happened, what programs we’re still part of, and why.

2009: Daniel is born at 29.5 weeks. As we knew we’d be looking at a massive hospital bill for him, the NICU social worker advised us to file for SSI for him which would also make him eligible for Medicaid. Based on his birth weight (1 lb 15 oz.), he was also eligible for Social Security to write off whatever insurance did not cover of his NICU bill.

2010: We moved from Montana to California after Jon’s parish situation deteriorated. We went through our savings in about two months and ended up applying for WIC, food stamps, and Medicaid for the three of us. (We had lost Medicaid for Daniel when SSA discovered an error.) We were granted WIC but our caseworker screwed up on the food stamps and Medicaid. Jon eventually got a youth pastor position which helped a bit and started working for his parents. He also supply-preached and did funerals which also helped. (Funeral homes will frequently have pastors on-call in case a family doesn’t have a church but would like a religious funeral for their loved one.) In September, he was called to Metanoia as the interim pastor. Meanwhile, I applied for Healthy Families (California’s S-CHIP) and Medicaid for Daniel. Straight Medicaid was denied but they’d kick something in after something like $1300/month. Healthy Families was denied because you had to be without insurance for a specific period of time before you were eligible. (My mom, God bless her, paid our insurance premiums so that there would be no lapse in coverage — neither Daniel nor I could be without insurance and until last year, Daniel was uninsurable.) We also got hooked up with the Regional Center (California’s agency for developmental disabilities). In November, I reapplied for SSI for Daniel as his developmental delays qualified him.

2011: Jon was called to Metanoia full-time in January and we moved up to northern California in February. His income was still under the threshold for WIC so we transferred up here. A week and a half after moving up here, Daniel ended up in the hospital for three weeks. The hospital social workers hooked me up with California Childrens’ Services which required me to apply for Medicaid. We were granted Medicaid which would kick in after $500 in medical costs per month. Meanwhile, SSI chugged through and I had to go into the office in the town to the south of us and get that squared away. It took two months and learning how to harass the right people but Daniel finally got approved and we were granted retroactive SSI and retroactive Medicaid. California Childrens’ Services paid for his hematology appointments and his Lovenox while he still required shots and we got things transferred to the Regional Center up here who are the epitome of awesomeness. They covered physical/occupational/speech/infant program through Easter Seals and one independent contractor. Daniel’s clot (from his central line during his hospitalization in March) disappears and we’re able to be kicked out of the hematology practice and California Childrens’ Services.

2012: Daniel turns three which means that the local school district is now in charge of speech/occupational therapy. He is diagnosed with autism (thank you to the Regional Center for paying for the testing) and is in an ABA classroom. We’re still hooked up with the Regional Center and are trying to get an in-home program in place. We’re also still hooked up with WIC and will be until our income is higher than the threshold or until Daniel turns 5.

OK… onto addressing comments!

From Stacy (who, by the way, is a social worker and knows her stuff):

I get SO ANGRY when people talk about those who abuse the system. For every one person who is abusing it, I’m sure there are 100+ who aren’t. Not to mention that the system is set up for people to you know…. not really be able to get out of it! Sooo frustrating. On another note, our Medicaid/food stamp office is BEAUTIFUL. I’ve never seen anything like it but it makes me so happy that the people going there for help don’t have to feel like they need to go on antibacterials afterward.

Granted, I’m seriously mysophobic so the anti-bacterials are a given with me. However, part of the problem is that a number of programs are housed at the DPSS in Pomona and the DHHS in Sacramento and they’re both located in seriously urban areas so they get a lot of traffic. I think if I went at the moment they opened, it would be less nasty for me. (OK… I’ve actually done that with the DPSS and it was still nasty.) The WIC office I go to in northern California is beautiful and clean (and located within walking distance from me) so that’s actually a positive. The one in southern California was not bad but it was overused so it got yucky.

From Jen:

What??s sad/true is that you have to be somewhat well-educated/literate in English to be able to wade through the bureaucracy, including knowing where to get official documents, how to correctly fill out the forms, etc. My husband sees a lot of this in his line of work??with former incarcerated men trying to re-enter the community. They aren??t well educated, they don??t have certain common sense skills (like how to start looking for their birth certificate) and there??s little to no help in teaching them these types of things (that a lot of us take for granted), so it??s no wonder why many of them end up back in prison. Because it??s easier. The staff at the halfway houses and re-entry programs can only do so much to assist, but there??s not enough time, money, staff, etc. Vicious cycle.

Having done prison ministry, I can attest to this. A lot of the men I dealt with when I’d go into the local prison in Montana (a for-profit medium security prison housing inmates for the state of Montana) were from disadvantaged backgrounds so they were there after making some really bad decisions. I could totally see me going in and teaching a class in how to do all these things but I stopped going in after getting pregnant because of the potential to be taken hostage while in the prison. Granted, it’s not even the most intuitive process for those of us on the outside to do things like getting a copy of a marriage certificate because it requires knowing what county to contact and what’s needed to do so. I know it was really hard to get a copy of my birth certificate for a library card when I didn’t have a valid ID in Minnesota — I had to go to a parishioner who was a loan officer and had notary privileges to get stuff signed to make the request.

OK… heading to bed. Will write more tomorrow.

7 Quick Takes: Perks of Being Part of the 47%

7 Quick Takes

Unless you happen to live under a rock, you’ve probably heard about Mitt’s “47%” gaffe. I am a member of that 47% so… I figured that as I’ve not hit my political snark quota this year due to promising not to badmouth any Republican candidate, I’d have some snark time now. 🙂 Here are my “7 perks of being part of the 47%”.

Oh yes… please sponsor me in the Run for Courage and please go love on Brett, my Reece’s Rainbow orphan. Thanks!

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My Facebook Status This Morning

Michelle, one of my Catholic chicas told me about the f-bomb party some Democrats threw for Cardinal Dolan on Twitter. This grieves my soul greatly. My first reaction when I saw the news story is not bloggable because Jesus doesn’t like it when I use those words to talk about His children. So I prayerfully and intentionally composed the following Facebook status which I’m sharing on Twitter and on here.

[I] would like to say this to those who tweeted f-bombs to Cardinal Dolan after his benediction:

Cardinal Dolan is deserving of our respect, not only because he is a cardinal nor because he is the head of the USCCB. He deserves our respect because he attended BOTH parties’ conventions, met pastorally with people from both sides, and made an effort to be congenial to President Obama despite the lawsuits going on over the HHS Mandate. He stood his ground in inviting the President to the Al Smith dinner even though he incurred the ire and wrath of a number of conservative Catholics for doing so. While I am not Catholic and I may not agree with every stance he has, I genuinely respect him because he is acting in a completely pastoral fashion in being congenial to those with whom he disagrees. Tweeting him f-bombs is juvenile and shows a complete lack of courtesy. To those who did that: learn some manners and learn from the example the Cardinal has set.

Seriously, I have mad respect for the Cardinal. I may not agree with him on some issues (fewer than some of you would think) but he does deserve the respect given to his office.

7 Quick Takes: Haircuts and the Run for Courage

7 Quick Takes

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I’m taking part in the Run for Courage on September 29th. I had been hearing about it from Daniel’s former physical therapist and I decided to do the 5K and walk it. I’ve been a supporter of International Justice Mission for years and this deals with restoring and healing girls who have been trafficked for sex, including in the USA. My donation URL is: http://engage.runforcourage.org/goto/khouriajen. My fundraising goal is $200 and I’ve raised $90 thus far. Please share my fundraising URL and let people know about this.

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To those who don’t like my Obama button: suck it up! I’m not commenting on your site and telling you what I think about your decision to back Romney — I might disagree with you but you have a right to vote for the candidate of your choosing and to post whatever political buttons you want on your blog. Kindly show me the same respect. Also, your comment isn’t going to show if I haven’t approved a comment of yours before so please stop leaving me variations on the same comment until I approve your comment. If 24 hours have gone by and I haven’t approved your comment, assume that I might not have seen it yet. (I do have a three year old and a life.) If 48-72 hours go by and it isn’t up, you can safely assume that I think you are a raving lunatic and you have no snowball’s chance of having your comment(s) approved. If your comment is a diatribe longer than the actual post on which you are commenting, your comment will be deleted.

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Daniel is back in his class from last year and all is well. His old teacher and aides are happy to have him back and he knew *EXACTLY* where he was on Wednesday when he came back to school after his 4-day weekend. He belly-laughed for his teacher for the first time today and it was so awesome for her to hear. I’m glad the temper tantrum I threw fuss I raised last week was worth it. They’re going to start him working with a PECS board and train us on it next week.

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The TV sitch was better during the DNC this week. Instead of not showing things on the schedule, CBS just moved them by an hour (i.e. NCIS was on at 8 instead of 7). Well played, CBS. Thankfully, I got the syndicated episodes of The Big Bang Theory at 7 p.m. so I had something to watch instead of just Judge Judy. Boo yah!

— 5 —

I’m pleased with how my hair turned out. It ended up chin-length instead of just at my shoulders but it still looks good.

Me asleep with Edda

— 6 —

Still editing devotions. I’m effectively done with Luke for the moment. I have what is looking like 4-5 to write on my own for Luke (replacing someone who couldn’t finish theirs) and whatever Jon can’t finish of his list. I’ll start formatting Acts once I get my passel of devotions done.

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You see that cute little boy over on my sidebar? He needs a mama. Mind praying that we can find one, donating toward his grant, or even considering adopting him? He’s cute and I’m not just saying that because I’m his Guardian Angel. 🙂

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Kara posted a picture of Wren on her Quick Takes. Ten year olds should not look like that — she’s being abused and needs out of wherever she is NOW. There’s no donate link on her page but could y’all pray that we can get her out of that situation or even consider adopting her?

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7 Quick Takes: School Situations and Weekend Plans

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Daniel’s school situation is messed up. I’d prefer not to go into it in detail here because this is a public blog so if you want details, just email me. Please pray that we can get it fixed expediently. It got fixed today without me having to fire a shot (figuratively). Apparently, I used the right three words yesterday while screaming at speaking with the school district (again, email me if you want details) so he’ll be back with his old (and VASTLY superior) teacher starting Wednesday when they come back from a 4-day weekend. I’m glad this is fixed because it was making me physically ill.

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I’m currently editing a book of devotions for a friend of Jon’s family. I’m grateful that my mother-in-law went through and standardized everything so all I have to do is type, cut n’ paste, and format. It’s not professional by any stretch of the imagination but it’s fulfilling a dream of theirs so I’m happy to help.

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I’m breaking my stance on keeping my mouth shut on politics for this take only. You know a candidate is deserving of the “liar liar pants on fire” label when almost every Republican on your Twitter (and I have many) as well as FOX News comments on how completely blatant the lies in Paul Ryan’s speech were.

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“The Big Bang Theory” was pre-empted for Mitt Romney’s speech. RNC, you suck!!! And yes, I’d totally be saying this if President Obama was pre-empting it. Nobody messes with my shows, darn it!!!! I will be so happy when the stupid election is over so I can watch actual TV instead of Netflix and endless loops of “Winnie the Pooh”. There is one small benefit to being a very blue part of a blue state: I’ve seen only a handful of political ads outside of the primary season and the ones during the Olympics. Unfortunately, that’s probably going to change in a few days.

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I’m planning to cut my hair tomorrow. Why is this newsworthy? It’s been 5 months (not purposely) and I’d like to get back to chin-length hair instead of looking like I’m 12 with my shoulder-length hair now. Well… either looking like I’m 12 or giving off the hippie vibe. Not that the last one is a problem. Nooooooo…

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Daniel has Tuesday off next week in addition to Monday (Labor Day). Apparently, it’s an in-service day for teachers. As Jon’s craziest day as a pastor is Tuesday (go figure!), Daniel and I might head to the zoo as he’s not going to stay quiet if I go to Morning Prayer.

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My little cousin Sarah is now at the OTHER school in Washington so there has started to be some major trash-talking over Facebook on game days. So far, the discussion has included comments on purple and gold being better colors than the OTHER school’s colors and how we can’t wait for the Apple Cup this year. (I’m seriously expecting Jessica to comment on this one. :p)

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My Thoughts on Todd Akin

Unless you have been living under a rock, you’ve probably heard about Todd Akin’s comments and the firestorm ignited by them. As this blog is the place where I toss my toxins, I felt like I should weigh in. I have good friends who are rape survivors and this could be triggering so please click on the cut if you want to read what I have to say. Oh yeah, comments are closed because this is not up for debate. Those who want to talk with me civilly know how to get in touch with me.

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7 Quick Takes: Things Not to Say To Me If You Want To Live

7 Quick Takes

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“Don’t you know that vaccines cause autism?” Actually, they don’t. The British doctor who spread that fallacy admitted to falsifying the data and his name was stricken from the British Medical Register. (Translation: he lost his license to practice medicine.) Unfortunately, airhead celebrities like Jenny McCarthy are still spreading that lie. Daniel is completely caught up on vaccines and if I had any say in the matter, all kids would be required to be vaccinated. There’s no excuse for kids in the USA dying from diseases like whooping cough if the access to vaccines exists.

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“Have you heard of the GAPS diet? It cures autism.” Yes, I’ve heard of it — I don’t think any parent of an autistic kid hasn’t because we do a huge amount of research in the hopes of finding something to help our kids. It also doesn’t cure autism because there is no cure. It sometimes *helps* some kids who have gluten intolerances and whose behavior is affected by them but it isn’t a cure-all thing. Besides, I have a kid with enough food issues that I’d rather not do anything to limit his diet any more than it already is.

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“I can’t believe you didn’t breastfeed Daniel. Don’t you know that ‘breast is best’???” The fun part is that it’s people who know about my pregnancy from hell and the emergency c-section from the HELLP Syndrome who ask me this. Anyway, I have no regrets about not breastfeeding with Daniel. I actually did try pumping but I was so incredibly sick that I needed the sleep too much to have to wake up every few hours to pump. My doctor and I made the decision to suppress my milk supply (it had already started coming in because of the pumping) and it was probably what got me out of the hospital sooner rather than later.

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“I can’t believe you want to vote for Obama!!!” I’d love to respond by saying that I can’t believe they would vote for Romney, but that would be wrong to do. 🙂 In all seriousness, I vote my conscience and I can’t, in good conscience, support Mitt Romney or Paul Ryan. Our third party system is crappy at best so my other option is Obama. I stay out of discussions of this on Facebook and elsewhere because I believe one of the blessings of being American is being allowed to vote one’s conscience. If your conscience says “Romney”, more power to you. Mine says “oh Hades no!” to the though of voting for Mitt Romney so “Obama” it is.

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“What do you mean your son has never had McDonald’s?!?!?!? Are you some kind of hippie granola freak?” Strangely, I’ve gotten this from people who are astonished that Daniel wasn’t breastfed. No, he has never had McDonald’s. He had a lot of texture issues when he finally started eating solid foods and I just never took him through the drive-thru because I didn’t think he’d eat it. When we were at his preschool picnic in May, peoples’ jaws dropped when they saw me bring the exact same lunch item for Daniel as I had brought for myself instead of going the Happy Meal route. I did get him a cheeseburger from Carl’s Jr a few days later and he was chill with that; but I’ve never gotten him anything from McDonald’s and probably won’t in the foreseeable future.

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“Why aren’t you homeschooling Daniel because he’s autistic?” The thought of homeschooling Daniel has never occurred to me and when Jon brought it up, I shot it down immediately… and that was before he was diagnosed with autism. I am not a patient person by nature and homeschooling was never in the plans, especially once he was diagnosed with autism. While I’ve had ABA training, I would rather have people who are far better trained than I am working with him. His preschool class provides him with music, art, behavioral therapy, speech therapy, and teachers/aides who adore the kids. I couldn’t ask for a better situation, especially in a public preschool. Not to mention, he gets mainstreamed with the other state preschool classes in increasing amounts which is educational for them as well as for him.

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“Can’t you just take some Tylenol for your fibromyalgia?” If that was a possibility, don’t you think I’d be doing that instead of spending $50+ a month on gabapentin and massage therapy? If you want your death to be slow and painful, just tell me that you don’t think fibromyalgia exists. I dare you!

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